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An engaging exploration of what it means to be asexual in a world that’s obsessed with sexual attraction, and what the ace perspective can teach all of us about desire and identity.
What exactly is sexual attraction and what is it like to go through life not experiencing it? What does asexuality reveal about gender roles, about romance and consent, and the pressures of society?...
An engaging exploration of what it means to be asexual in a world that’s obsessed with sexual attraction, and what the ace perspective can teach all of us about desire and identity.
What exactly is sexual attraction and what is it like to go through life not experiencing it? What does asexuality reveal about gender roles, about romance and consent, and the pressures of society? This accessible examination of asexuality shows that the issues that aces face—confusion around sexual activity, the intersection of sexuality and identity, navigating different needs in relationships—are the same conflicts that nearly all of us will experience. Through a blend of reporting, cultural criticism, and memoir, Ace addresses the misconceptions around the “A” of LGBTQIA and invites everyone to rethink pleasure and intimacy.
Journalist Angela Chen creates her path to understanding her own asexuality with the perspectives of a diverse group of asexual people. Vulnerable and honest, these stories include a woman who had blood tests done because she was convinced that “not wanting sex” was a sign of serious illness, and a man who grew up in a religious household and did everything “right,” only to realize after marriage that his experience of sexuality had never been the same as that of others. Disabled aces, aces of color, gender-nonconforming aces, and aces who both do and don’t want romantic relationships all share their experiences navigating a society in which a lack of sexual attraction is considered abnormal. Chen’s careful cultural analysis explores how societal norms limit understanding of sex and relationships and celebrates the breadth of sexuality and queerness.
作者简介 · · · · · ·
Angela Chen is a journalist and writer in New York City. Her reporting and criticism have appeared in the Wall Street Journal, Atlantic, Guardian, Paris Review, Electric Literature, Catapult, and elsewhere. Chen is a member of the ace community and has spoken about asexuality at academic conferences and events including World Pride. Find her on Twitter @chengela or at angelache...
Angela Chen is a journalist and writer in New York City. Her reporting and criticism have appeared in the Wall Street Journal, Atlantic, Guardian, Paris Review, Electric Literature, Catapult, and elsewhere. Chen is a member of the ace community and has spoken about asexuality at academic conferences and events including World Pride. Find her on Twitter @chengela or at angelachen.org.
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- The others seemed to feel a thrill of titillation (when watching two classmates kiss), but Lucid felt only bewilderment, not understanding the appeal of kissing or why anyone would care. (查看原文)
—— 引自第16页 - No matter how often Lucid heard whispers about the excitement of sex, they wanted no part of it. The idea of sex and everything related to sex, remained repulsive. (查看原文)
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3 有用 顾予美 2022-09-11 07:43:45 加拿大
绝对会是我今年的年度十佳，读完感觉看待感情和欲望的方式都开阔了起来，强烈推荐，深入浅出很好读。“The goal of ace liberation is simply the goal of true sexual and romantic freedom for everyone. A society that is welcoming to aces is a society that re... 绝对会是我今年的年度十佳，读完感觉看待感情和欲望的方式都开阔了起来，强烈推荐，深入浅出很好读。“The goal of ace liberation is simply the goal of true sexual and romantic freedom for everyone. A society that is welcoming to aces is a society that respects choice and highlights the pleasure that can be found everywhere in our lives. ” (展开)
3 有用 我请求下雨 2024-01-23 09:52:36 荷兰
是读完立刻想读第二遍、想做扩展阅读、想推荐给所有人的书。不仅仅关于ace，更关于sex in society，关于amatonormativity, compulsory sexuality的部分我都很喜欢。个人最有共鸣的部分在race intersection，consent的四种划分，sex 与feminism，sexual desire与self worth，qpp。这本书也让我第一次反思自... 是读完立刻想读第二遍、想做扩展阅读、想推荐给所有人的书。不仅仅关于ace，更关于sex in society，关于amatonormativity, compulsory sexuality的部分我都很喜欢。个人最有共鸣的部分在race intersection，consent的四种划分，sex 与feminism，sexual desire与self worth，qpp。这本书也让我第一次反思自己的性取向，原来我从没体验过sexual attraction。美中不足是非常美国中心，东亚的性文化很不一样。两句话总结就是Take a step back, 以及We're all still figuring it out. 总之是很liberating的一本书，想对作者说谢谢。 (展开)
7 有用 NoNo 2022-05-21 07:12:12
恍然大悟 guess I’m aromantic not ace 原来aromantic就是很容易被误解为没有心/反社会 虽然一直没少被slut shaming，但人们对asexual的误解更大——asexual并不等于性冷淡，况且将心比心，有或没有libido其实都是人类生物多样性的呈现；父权社会害人不浅，在尚未建立完整认知时，你想要的不一定是真的，它也许只不过是社会认为/希望你想要的而已。 曾... 恍然大悟 guess I’m aromantic not ace 原来aromantic就是很容易被误解为没有心/反社会 虽然一直没少被slut shaming，但人们对asexual的误解更大——asexual并不等于性冷淡，况且将心比心，有或没有libido其实都是人类生物多样性的呈现；父权社会害人不浅，在尚未建立完整认知时，你想要的不一定是真的，它也许只不过是社会认为/希望你想要的而已。 曾也怀疑过像这样的「贴标签」会不会反是种刻板保守，但事实上边缘群体的声音少之又少，而只有发声，才有被看见以及被探讨的可能。 总之不一定要是ace，而是假如你对主流婚恋观同样持否定态度，那么或许你也能从这本书里得到某些意想不到的答案。 (展开)
7 有用 睡至下个纪元 2023-04-07 19:05:05 北京
断断续续读了半年，终于在23年international asexuality day的第二天读完了！我很难描述这本书对我而言有多么重要，因为它实在太好、太恰当了。即使作者作为有浪漫倾向无性恋，和我的人生轨迹以及思维路径并不完全一致，我仍然屡屡从这些文字中获得了力量。希望我们都快乐，希望我们都自由。
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GlacialeInfini 2023-12-30 14:41:18
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个体体验的切入很接地气，尤其是作者自己的迷茫困惑挣扎之路，虽然作者及其所属群体有限且狭窄(society of Western, liberal, primarily upper-middle-class America)。有的地方写得甚至觉得 有问题，也不太简练。但总之总之值得一读，无论是不是Ace，也许都会有一些新的角度新... (展开)
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