The Treasure Box (original) (raw)

Oh my god I have to vent.

So one of my friends has been the topic of bitching for months. She's had a rough year I won't deny that but her choices and actions are not helping her situation and I don't know how she expects us to act, but she's not getting a lot of sympathy from us.

The year starts off with J (as I will call her from now one) getting into a new uni course (after deciding she didn't like her old one - no bitching here as she stuck with it as long as she possibily could and after she quit J did get a full time job) After 3 days of Uni J decides to quit. 3 days! At my uni we have 2 weeks to change our units/subjects and then about a month to quit without getting fined. One of my friends thought this may be due to another one of my friends who J has had a crush on since they met, but he has stated that she's only ever going to be friend, leaving his full time job in another state and returning to us and just working part time now while he decides what he wants to do.

Fine, we get over this. It's J's choice not harming anyone. Her car gets stolen which is very sad and she starts getting people to come get her from work when there's a bus that almost goes straight past her house. Anyway car returns soon enough and this is gotten over quickly too.

So for a few months J is just working at her job at a department store where she works customer service or layby. We discover that J thinks normal register shifts are beneath her and is often giving them away. She starts getting less shifts when she somehow upsets the layby manager so J decides to take a job with her sister fruit picking for 2 months. This job lasts 7 days before she returns home. J wanted one of my friends to drive 3 hours there to pick her up and take her home that day meaning a 6 hour trip in total because she couldn't hack it anymore. J was pissed when my friend turned her down.

J returns to work at the deparment store but is quickly phased out by getting only a couple of shifts a week so she decides to get a full time job. Or more start looking for one. meanwhile J is running out of money and starts borrowing money from us. She also gets behind a lot on her board payments to her parents who aren't just charging her board because they're teaching her about life but rather actually need that money because neither can work full time due to illness. J slowly learns she can't come out all the time, but when she does sort of excepts others to pay for her. Now all this time I'm thinking J is looking for a full time job. She's not. Her idea of looking for a job is spending an hour a day looking on the job net sites. Now this would be fine for a causal job, but for a full time postion I expected J to be ringing people and posting resumes and stuff. Nope.

So this goes on for while and now the latest thing is that she's now 'happy' to be on antidepressants. Now when I say this I don't mean J actually has depression. Her GP prescribed to her. I'm a psyc student I know the criteria someone has to met to have depression and I doubt GPs follow that criteria but rather go 'oh you're sad have some meds'. The reason J is happy is that now she's told her new workplace, another department store, that she can only work 8 hours a week. I have no idea where this random number comes from as it makes no sense to me. She can work more than 8 hours a week she just doesn't want to. She'd rather sleep all day and bludge around. For someone who's in a lot of debt and has little income coming in (she does get welfare payments) she's not doing a lot to fix the problem. Also by being marked down as having depression it's easier for her to get her govenment check because it means she doesn't have to prove she's looking for a job because she's too depressed to do so. Bullshit.