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His sexual reactivity was inexorably tied to instances where he could not assert his equal power ... more His sexual reactivity was inexorably tied to instances where he could not assert his equal power in a casual or business interaction. With his focus in the proper place--his developmental need to be competent rather than inferior (Erickson's Fourth Developmental Stage)--the pathological urges to overpower women sexually, which he hated in the first place, were entirely extinguished.
I propose that is what sexual enactment is about, at least when there is an underlying fantasy that is at odds with the realities of our moral imperatives. There is a physiological urge, a pressing demand, to gain a visceral experience of victoriously surmounting a developmental block! The body needs the victory. Erotic urges (when they are disordered and conflict with reality) symbolically point us in the direction of developmental needs that require our conscious attention, and an alteration of our understanding of the situation to which we are developmentally blind.

You are presenting at a public meeting (something he might do in real life). You have the lecture... more You are presenting at a public meeting (something he might do in real life). You have the lecture nailed and are easily wining over the audience who clearly approves of your points and arguments. You have swayed them and won their respect (make him feel his competence.) Suddenly you notice one audience member who stands out because of his enthusiastic clapping and very clear eyed focus on your person: my goodness, he looks incredibly just like you. He signs to you that he would like to meet with you after the lecture. You agree because of your curiosity and find a quiet place to have a longer talk, because it turns out, there are too many coincidences between you both: you have not only the same build and general appearance, but also the same first name, the same hobbies and interests.... the very stuff of twins separated at birth, as it were. (Establishing an alter ego, with differences.) You are struck by his positive energy. He seems full and wholesome and even enviably satisfied, sexually. You can sense that in a man. Someone who gets what he wants, every time. So you gently probe him to uncover the secret of his seeming power and prowess. He is happy to talk about it, even in detail. Luckily, you are in the

I love some of the questions that are being brought up by the popularity of this book. The severa... more I love some of the questions that are being brought up by the popularity of this book. The several shades of sexual dynamic depicted within it comprise an exploration of one of the most significant archetypes of our times. Riane Eisler addresses this archetype when she speaks of the shift from a dominator model of society to one of equal partnership. An awareness of this shift seems to be what is arising in our consciousness and pressing to be worked through, both individually and collectively.

The actual function of eroticism is not the same as the function of sex. The latter is clearly fo... more The actual function of eroticism is not the same as the function of sex. The latter is clearly for procreation, but isn't it strange how the former does not always have sexual consummation as its aim? Given that nature is reliably purposeful and usually very efficient, the preponderance of erotic activity over the course of a human life corelates poorly to the number of children humans do procreate. It might make sense to consider alternative, nonbiological functions when pondering the actual function of erotic arousal in humans.

This thesis is to propose a meta-theory of human sexuality that postulates a psychic procreative ... more This thesis is to propose a meta-theory of human sexuality that postulates a psychic procreative function for erotic behavior. Erotic behavior is seen as aimed at the visceral integration of opposite attitudes, or opposing stances, to yield insight and a transcendent perspectives, at a deep, somatic nervous system level. This view is distinct from--but not contradictory to--a strict biologically procreative function of sexuality. The framework on which this theory hangs is that symbolic re-enactments of Eriksonian Developmental stages (as a central thesis but not an exhaustive explanation) help the nervous system release, through the convulsions of coitus, repressed awareness and the release of limiting beliefs that block Hope, Will, Purpose, Competence, Fidelity, Intimacy, Love, Empathy, and Wisdom. The developmental 'bids' for--Trust, Autonomy, Initiative, Industry, Fidelity, Intimacy, Empathy, and wisdom which enter into erotic struggles against Collapse, Shame, Guilt, (the sense of) Inferiority, Identity confusion, Isolation, Stagnation, and Despair, respectively-- are the main drive and aims of human erotic behaviors, fantasies, perversions, and account for the main causes of repression, both emotional and sexual.
Keywords: somatic psychology, psychic organization, erotic arousal, self-transformation,

His sexual reactivity was inexorably tied to instances where he could not assert his equal power ... more His sexual reactivity was inexorably tied to instances where he could not assert his equal power in a casual or business interaction. With his focus in the proper place--his developmental need to be competent rather than inferior (Erickson's Fourth Developmental Stage)--the pathological urges to overpower women sexually, which he hated in the first place, were entirely extinguished.
I propose that is what sexual enactment is about, at least when there is an underlying fantasy that is at odds with the realities of our moral imperatives. There is a physiological urge, a pressing demand, to gain a visceral experience of victoriously surmounting a developmental block! The body needs the victory. Erotic urges (when they are disordered and conflict with reality) symbolically point us in the direction of developmental needs that require our conscious attention, and an alteration of our understanding of the situation to which we are developmentally blind.

You are presenting at a public meeting (something he might do in real life). You have the lecture... more You are presenting at a public meeting (something he might do in real life). You have the lecture nailed and are easily wining over the audience who clearly approves of your points and arguments. You have swayed them and won their respect (make him feel his competence.) Suddenly you notice one audience member who stands out because of his enthusiastic clapping and very clear eyed focus on your person: my goodness, he looks incredibly just like you. He signs to you that he would like to meet with you after the lecture. You agree because of your curiosity and find a quiet place to have a longer talk, because it turns out, there are too many coincidences between you both: you have not only the same build and general appearance, but also the same first name, the same hobbies and interests.... the very stuff of twins separated at birth, as it were. (Establishing an alter ego, with differences.) You are struck by his positive energy. He seems full and wholesome and even enviably satisfied, sexually. You can sense that in a man. Someone who gets what he wants, every time. So you gently probe him to uncover the secret of his seeming power and prowess. He is happy to talk about it, even in detail. Luckily, you are in the

I love some of the questions that are being brought up by the popularity of this book. The severa... more I love some of the questions that are being brought up by the popularity of this book. The several shades of sexual dynamic depicted within it comprise an exploration of one of the most significant archetypes of our times. Riane Eisler addresses this archetype when she speaks of the shift from a dominator model of society to one of equal partnership. An awareness of this shift seems to be what is arising in our consciousness and pressing to be worked through, both individually and collectively.

The actual function of eroticism is not the same as the function of sex. The latter is clearly fo... more The actual function of eroticism is not the same as the function of sex. The latter is clearly for procreation, but isn't it strange how the former does not always have sexual consummation as its aim? Given that nature is reliably purposeful and usually very efficient, the preponderance of erotic activity over the course of a human life corelates poorly to the number of children humans do procreate. It might make sense to consider alternative, nonbiological functions when pondering the actual function of erotic arousal in humans.

This thesis is to propose a meta-theory of human sexuality that postulates a psychic procreative ... more This thesis is to propose a meta-theory of human sexuality that postulates a psychic procreative function for erotic behavior. Erotic behavior is seen as aimed at the visceral integration of opposite attitudes, or opposing stances, to yield insight and a transcendent perspectives, at a deep, somatic nervous system level. This view is distinct from--but not contradictory to--a strict biologically procreative function of sexuality. The framework on which this theory hangs is that symbolic re-enactments of Eriksonian Developmental stages (as a central thesis but not an exhaustive explanation) help the nervous system release, through the convulsions of coitus, repressed awareness and the release of limiting beliefs that block Hope, Will, Purpose, Competence, Fidelity, Intimacy, Love, Empathy, and Wisdom. The developmental 'bids' for--Trust, Autonomy, Initiative, Industry, Fidelity, Intimacy, Empathy, and wisdom which enter into erotic struggles against Collapse, Shame, Guilt, (the sense of) Inferiority, Identity confusion, Isolation, Stagnation, and Despair, respectively-- are the main drive and aims of human erotic behaviors, fantasies, perversions, and account for the main causes of repression, both emotional and sexual.
Keywords: somatic psychology, psychic organization, erotic arousal, self-transformation,