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Invitation	[Sep. 13th, 2006\|04:59 pm]obnoxiousparent
I'd like to invite members of this community to read my current post titled: "Who are you and what have you done with my child?"My blog is dedicated to the lighter side of being a parent, so if you need a little laughter to lift your spirits, you are welcome to paw through my alternative-mom psyche:fonda5150.If you like the above piece, you may also enjoy reading: "Those who laugh last don’t kill their kids…"
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[Sep. 13th, 2006|04:59 pm]obnoxiousparent

I'd like to invite members of this community to read my current post titled: "Who are you and what have you done with my child?"My blog is dedicated to the lighter side of being a parent, so if you need a little laughter to lift your spirits, you are welcome to paw through my alternative-mom psyche:

fonda5150.If you like the above piece, you may also enjoy reading: "Those who laugh last don’t kill their kids…"

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www.mamarevolution.com/phpbb2/index.php	[Jun. 18th, 2006\|02:03 pm]obnoxiousparent
Mamarevolution.com was started in early winter 2004 by four young mamas who needed a place where they belonged. Too young and alternative for babycenter and too old for the teen based online communities, they struck out to make a home for mamas who just didn’t fit in anywhere else. After a few nights of brainstorming and women sharing their talents, Mamarevolution.com was born.Mamarevolution is a pro-choice, feminist community who seeks to support, encourage and educate young women and mothers from all backgrounds and cultures. Our goal is to provide the community and support that is so desperately needed as we fight for our rights as parents and women, and to defeat the social stereotypes that surround young or alternative parents. While we promote breastfeeding and natural parenting, we recognize that each family is unique and has their own set of needs and customs. We respect and support all families and their allies in their quest to raise strong, positive and socially conscious children.
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[Jun. 18th, 2006|02:03 pm]obnoxiousparent

Mamarevolution.com was started in early winter 2004 by four young mamas who needed a place where they belonged. Too young and alternative for babycenter and too old for the teen based online communities, they struck out to make a home for mamas who just didn’t fit in anywhere else. After a few nights of brainstorming and women sharing their talents, Mamarevolution.com was born.Mamarevolution is a pro-choice, feminist community who seeks to support, encourage and educate young women and mothers from all backgrounds and cultures. Our goal is to provide the community and support that is so desperately needed as we fight for our rights as parents and women, and to defeat the social stereotypes that surround young or alternative parents. While we promote breastfeeding and natural parenting, we recognize that each family is unique and has their own set of needs and customs. We respect and support all families and their allies in their quest to raise strong, positive and socially conscious children.

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(no subject)	[Jul. 7th, 2005\|11:28 am]obnoxiousparent
Okay, we have a thing in my town called "Nation Cherry Festival" (because we are the 'Cherry Capital of the *WORLD*'.. big deal). I went down there two nights ago with my fiancee to see the rides and see some old friends on mine I haven't seen since I got pregnant. Josh and I ran into a friend of his who has an 8 month old baby and is due to have ANOTHER baby end of September. My jaw about hit the floor when I heard this. But that isn't what bothered me. About 5-10 minutes later, I see her jump up and light up a cigarette and smoke it. Not a light, but a Marlboro RED! After that, I saw another girl I know who is about 18-19, on her THIRD kid and she's smoking a cigarette too! (Same brand) So now I am in total shock. I start looking around and I notice, a couple other pregnant women smoking. Then I see a few of our friends with new borns stolling around with their infants in a stroller smoking cigarette right in front of them. One mother was actually holding her kid while her boyfriend smoked and the smoke was blowing in his child's face. This isn't the worst thing that night.I ran into a friend of mine from YEARS back and found out he has a son. I was doing the typical baby talk with his (3 month old) son when the littleguy started to raise his head. I joked and said "Is he practicing sit up so he can have a nice 6 pack stomach?" and Jason goes (with a lit cigarette in his mouth) "He's trying to sit up. He is really advanced for his age. He's already trying to sit up, walk, talk, and he even eeats solid foods too." I took a closer look at his son, and there were NO TEETH anywhere in that mouth.. AM I just over reacting, or are these parents just complete MORONS!?!?!
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[Jul. 7th, 2005|11:28 am]obnoxiousparent

Okay, we have a thing in my town called "Nation Cherry Festival" (because we are the 'Cherry Capital of the WORLD'.. big deal). I went down there two nights ago with my fiancee to see the rides and see some old friends on mine I haven't seen since I got pregnant. Josh and I ran into a friend of his who has an 8 month old baby and is due to have ANOTHER baby end of September. My jaw about hit the floor when I heard this. But that isn't what bothered me. About 5-10 minutes later, I see her jump up and light up a cigarette and smoke it. Not a light, but a Marlboro RED! After that, I saw another girl I know who is about 18-19, on her THIRD kid and she's smoking a cigarette too! (Same brand) So now I am in total shock. I start looking around and I notice, a couple other pregnant women smoking. Then I see a few of our friends with new borns stolling around with their infants in a stroller smoking cigarette right in front of them. One mother was actually holding her kid while her boyfriend smoked and the smoke was blowing in his child's face. This isn't the worst thing that night.I ran into a friend of mine from YEARS back and found out he has a son. I was doing the typical baby talk with his (3 month old) son when the littleguy started to raise his head. I joked and said "Is he practicing sit up so he can have a nice 6 pack stomach?" and Jason goes (with a lit cigarette in his mouth) "He's trying to sit up. He is really advanced for his age. He's already trying to sit up, walk, talk, and he even eeats solid foods too." I took a closer look at his son, and there were NO TEETH anywhere in that mouth.. AM I just over reacting, or are these parents just complete MORONS!?!?!

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(no subject)	[Jul. 7th, 2005\|11:02 pm]obnoxiousparent
So my aunt is 3 weeks more pregnant than I am.A year or 2 before she had her first I lost a daughter at 18 weeks pregnant, she told me it didn't matter because I was 16 and to get over it and then went and had a daughter.This wouldn't normally bother me as lots of my close friends have had babies (many of them girls) in that time as has my housemate.It's been years, stuff like that tends to happen.But when I tell my aunt I want to breastfeed for as long as possible, like at least 2 years she starts going on about how it's child molestation and breastmilk has no superior properties to anything after the first 6 months (which explains why now when I put breastmilk on rashes, sores etc they get better much more quickly and why when my housemate expresses breastmilk for her 7 and 3 year old sons when they are sick with a tummy bug it mysteriously goes away quite easily).When I say "well who knows maybe we'll even go 5 years".Then she says to me that it is much too hard work and I will never stick with it and I will 'understand' when I am finally doing it (not realising that this just makes me more determined and that hey thanks for the compassion, this is my 5th fucking pregnancy, I started breeding long before you lady).After this my whole family gets in on it agreeing with the child molestation accusations towards extended breastfeeders, about how it's only good for 6 months (last time I checked my boobs didn't have a use by date) and how it is such a drag and a chore and formula is so much easier anyway.Next when I say that I am not getting a cot/crib whatever as it seems a waste of money that I don't have and I have a huge bed that only I sleep in, it's easier to feed from and I would feel more comfortable with my child in with me and contrary to popular belief you can have a sex life while co-sleeping, look at the millions of parents who do it.And how I wouldn't let me child cry it out anyway.They start in about how it makes your children less independant, how they need to mature their lungs, how clingy they will be, how I will never get my bed or my life back.No matter what I say or how many midwifery books I read them they never fucking listen and are totally rude and treat me like i'm just a brainless pregnant git.I do not know why this bothers me so much as I live in another state to them and rarely contact them anymore, but those times I do have to see or talk to them are just so fucking painful and makes me want to rant and scream and knock some heads off.Who refuses to let their 2 yr old in to their bed for a snuggle after a bad dream and instead calls them manipulative and makes them sleep on the floor at the end of the bed?Yes, my aunt.Now that is child abuse.Than they assume I slept with a boy to get pregnant and I just can't be assed explaining the in and outs of self insemination.Start on about the whole 'phase of lesbianism' that has lasted since coming out at age 15 many years ago but that no matter how much they pretend they accept and understand it they just don't.My girlfriend and I recently broke up as she was very abusive but before we did we went to a family function.Everyone in the family knew that she was my partner, they have met her on several occasions, knew we mostly lived together, had been together for a year, they all knew.Yet my aunt said something about me being a single mother.How the fuck am I single if I have a fucking partner?Biology does not make a parent, some sperm does not make a parent.She is my absent abusive deadbeat babymama no different to babydaddy.But I had no support over our breakup because she doesn't produce sperm.There is more and I could go on and on forever.I think I should just stop talking to these people before I kill them.
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[Jul. 7th, 2005|11:02 pm]obnoxiousparent

So my aunt is 3 weeks more pregnant than I am.A year or 2 before she had her first I lost a daughter at 18 weeks pregnant, she told me it didn't matter because I was 16 and to get over it and then went and had a daughter.This wouldn't normally bother me as lots of my close friends have had babies (many of them girls) in that time as has my housemate.It's been years, stuff like that tends to happen.But when I tell my aunt I want to breastfeed for as long as possible, like at least 2 years she starts going on about how it's child molestation and breastmilk has no superior properties to anything after the first 6 months (which explains why now when I put breastmilk on rashes, sores etc they get better much more quickly and why when my housemate expresses breastmilk for her 7 and 3 year old sons when they are sick with a tummy bug it mysteriously goes away quite easily).When I say "well who knows maybe we'll even go 5 years".Then she says to me that it is much too hard work and I will never stick with it and I will 'understand' when I am finally doing it (not realising that this just makes me more determined and that hey thanks for the compassion, this is my 5th fucking pregnancy, I started breeding long before you lady).After this my whole family gets in on it agreeing with the child molestation accusations towards extended breastfeeders, about how it's only good for 6 months (last time I checked my boobs didn't have a use by date) and how it is such a drag and a chore and formula is so much easier anyway.Next when I say that I am not getting a cot/crib whatever as it seems a waste of money that I don't have and I have a huge bed that only I sleep in, it's easier to feed from and I would feel more comfortable with my child in with me and contrary to popular belief you can have a sex life while co-sleeping, look at the millions of parents who do it.And how I wouldn't let me child cry it out anyway.They start in about how it makes your children less independant, how they need to mature their lungs, how clingy they will be, how I will never get my bed or my life back.No matter what I say or how many midwifery books I read them they never fucking listen and are totally rude and treat me like i'm just a brainless pregnant git.I do not know why this bothers me so much as I live in another state to them and rarely contact them anymore, but those times I do have to see or talk to them are just so fucking painful and makes me want to rant and scream and knock some heads off.Who refuses to let their 2 yr old in to their bed for a snuggle after a bad dream and instead calls them manipulative and makes them sleep on the floor at the end of the bed?Yes, my aunt.Now that is child abuse.Than they assume I slept with a boy to get pregnant and I just can't be assed explaining the in and outs of self insemination.Start on about the whole 'phase of lesbianism' that has lasted since coming out at age 15 many years ago but that no matter how much they pretend they accept and understand it they just don't.My girlfriend and I recently broke up as she was very abusive but before we did we went to a family function.Everyone in the family knew that she was my partner, they have met her on several occasions, knew we mostly lived together, had been together for a year, they all knew.Yet my aunt said something about me being a single mother.How the fuck am I single if I have a fucking partner?Biology does not make a parent, some sperm does not make a parent.She is my absent abusive deadbeat babymama no different to babydaddy.But I had no support over our breakup because she doesn't produce sperm.There is more and I could go on and on forever.I think I should just stop talking to these people before I kill them.

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waves	[Dec. 3rd, 2004\|01:50 pm]obnoxiousparent
having added sprogs to my interest list I was surprised to see it come up with matches and found the community that way :)I already even know some of you!so... here I am :)Nice to meet y'all.
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hello!	[Oct. 12th, 2004\|02:01 pm]obnoxiousparent
Hi, Im new. My name is April and i have a 3 year old named Trinity. I work part time at TGI Fridays. Man do I have some obnoxious parent stories I can share from work! Some parents just drive me BONKERS!Umm any other info you guys want? I am looking for some new friends and stuff and this community looked like a fun place to rant.So Hello!
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(no subject)	[Jul. 23rd, 2004\|02:34 am]obnoxiousparent
I don't understand this logic, a woman in altparent is looking for help with her two year old, thats all fine and dandy but she proceeds to mention that her son hits people and bites and stuff and then goes on to say she uses corperal punishment, and so does her mother,.... uhm I dont understand how hitting a child is going to teach them that hitting is not to be done..even worse she then mentions in a comment that he "learned to hit from some other kids at the babysitters"ahuh, right.
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[Jul. 23rd, 2004|02:34 am]obnoxiousparent

I don't understand this logic, a woman in altparent is looking for help with her two year old, thats all fine and dandy but she proceeds to mention that her son hits people and bites and stuff and then goes on to say she uses corperal punishment, and so does her mother,.... uhm I dont understand how hitting a child is going to teach them that hitting is not to be done..even worse she then mentions in a comment that he "learned to hit from some other kids at the babysitters"ahuh, right.

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(no subject)	[Jun. 8th, 2004\|01:15 pm]obnoxiousparent
[mood \|cynical]UGH, I was chatting on IRC and I'm not sure how we got on the subject but this asshat was going on about how awful his gf's kid was, or his gf's sisters kid or something doesnt matter, anyway apparently this kid has a lot of emotional issues and says things like "I hope you die" when he's mad, certainly not acceptable behavour but as adults there are ways to handle this in a non abusive way. This guy however was saying how he "hates" this kid and often chokeholds him on the couch or something and wishes he were older so he could kick his ass?OMG get a fucking grip, this kid is TEN! I wanted to scream at him for an hour but that's never helpful, I kept suggesting other ways to deal with the situation but he kept tossing the suggestions away eventually I just had to give up but I'm left feeling very poorly about the whole situation...
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[Jun. 8th, 2004|01:15 pm]obnoxiousparent

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cynical]UGH, I was chatting on IRC and I'm not sure how we got on the subject but this asshat was going on about how awful his gf's kid was, or his gf's sisters kid or something doesnt matter, anyway apparently this kid has a lot of emotional issues and says things like "I hope you die" when he's mad, certainly not acceptable behavour but as adults there are ways to handle this in a non abusive way. This guy however was saying how he "hates" this kid and often chokeholds him on the couch or something and wishes he were older so he could kick his ass?OMG get a fucking grip, this kid is TEN! I wanted to scream at him for an hour but that's never helpful, I kept suggesting other ways to deal with the situation but he kept tossing the suggestions away eventually I just had to give up but I'm left feeling very poorly about the whole situation...

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Class wars are obnoxious!	[Mar. 11th, 2004\|09:54 am]obnoxiousparent
[mood \|irritated]I don't think I'll use a specific nick on this rant because the person in question is a new reg on alparent but I've got a beef. Every Comment I've seen this woman make to other posters in the last few days has involved her berating moms who need financial assistance or for whatever reason stay at home with their kids, and Heralds herself up as the ultimate parent because she has a lot of money . Now don't get me wrong I am in NO way slagging any of you who are not stay at home moms and who work for a living, I realize financial situations often call for this and I have yet to see any one of you berate someone else and I'm sure if circumstances were different you'd probably -want- to stay at home with your kids. As far as Im conserned with this woman however, yeah it's great that you make so much money, now your kids can have hi-tech toys to play with alone while you're at work...yeah I see how that makes you a better parent rolls eyes The person in question went so far as to tell someone they should give their child up for adoption because the babies father decided to be an ass and be a deadbeat dad and I quote"We knew when our son was born that our financial situation was short-term and that we'd be in a position to provide for him in the way we felt was appropriate in a fairly short time. If we hadn't been able to do that, without our parents or the government, but completely on our own, we wouldn't have been selfish enough to attempt raising him on our own. I think adoption is a viable alternative when put in such a difficult position, and too many people don't consider it. Fuck that!Selfish? No selfish is bringing a baby into this world only to give it away because you don't want to give up fancy meals out and designer outfits. Drew doesn't cost even close to what I thought she would, and as everyone knows I had planned to exclusivley breastfeed and wasn't able to so that's an ADDED cost I hadn't counted on and I still manage to give her everything she needs and a lot of things she doesn't need but are cute or fun. No Matter what you do, you are being selfish, if you stay at home you make less income therefor depriving your child of the latest Guess jeans or whatever, if you go to work all day you're depriving you're child of you, it's a choice everyone has to make and trying to belittle people on the other side of the coin is completely pointless.Also I am sick and tired of being pigeonholed into the "welfare-whore" catagory, first off I'm not ON welfare but I probably will be on disability soon as I plan to move out on my own with Drew, -THAT- is what financial assitance is FOR, I am not -abusing- anything, having a disability does not hinder my parenting and in a way it awards me the opportunity to be with my daughter all day which I'm sure most of you would love to do. No, I don't think I'm a better parent then someone who has to work all day but I certainly don't think they are a better parent then me and I'm tired of the class wars between parents over this issue.If anything women who strive to be good parents with limited resources should be commended, not berated by women on a self serving power trip who think far too much of themselves.
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Class wars are obnoxious!

[Mar. 11th, 2004|09:54 am]obnoxiousparent

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irritated]I don't think I'll use a specific nick on this rant because the person in question is a new reg on alparent but I've got a beef. Every Comment I've seen this woman make to other posters in the last few days has involved her berating moms who need financial assistance or for whatever reason stay at home with their kids, and Heralds herself up as the ultimate parent because she has a lot of money . Now don't get me wrong I am in NO way slagging any of you who are not stay at home moms and who work for a living, I realize financial situations often call for this and I have yet to see any one of you berate someone else and I'm sure if circumstances were different you'd probably -want- to stay at home with your kids. As far as Im conserned with this woman however, yeah it's great that you make so much money, now your kids can have hi-tech toys to play with alone while you're at work...yeah I see how that makes you a better parent *rolls eyes* The person in question went so far as to tell someone they should give their child up for adoption because the babies father decided to be an ass and be a deadbeat dad and I quote"We knew when our son was born that our financial situation was short-term and that we'd be in a position to provide for him in the way we felt was appropriate in a fairly short time. If we hadn't been able to do that, without our parents or the government, but completely on our own, we wouldn't have been selfish enough to attempt raising him on our own. I think adoption is a viable alternative when put in such a difficult position, and too many people don't consider it. Fuck that!Selfish? No selfish is bringing a baby into this world only to give it away because you don't want to give up fancy meals out and designer outfits. Drew doesn't cost even close to what I thought she would, and as everyone knows I had planned to exclusivley breastfeed and wasn't able to so that's an ADDED cost I hadn't counted on and I still manage to give her everything she needs and a lot of things she doesn't need but are cute or fun. No Matter what you do, you are being selfish, if you stay at home you make less income therefor depriving your child of the latest Guess jeans or whatever, if you go to work all day you're depriving you're child of you, it's a choice everyone has to make and trying to belittle people on the other side of the coin is completely pointless.Also I am sick and tired of being pigeonholed into the "welfare-whore" catagory, first off I'm not ON welfare but I probably will be on disability soon as I plan to move out on my own with Drew, -THAT- is what financial assitance is FOR, I am not -abusing- anything, having a disability does not hinder my parenting and in a way it awards me the opportunity to be with my daughter all day which I'm sure most of you would love to do. No, I don't think I'm a better parent then someone who has to work all day but I certainly don't think they are a better parent then me and I'm tired of the class wars between parents over this issue.If anything women who strive to be good parents with limited resources should be commended, not berated by women on a self serving power trip who think far too much of themselves.

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feh	[Feb. 8th, 2004\|08:35 am]obnoxiousparent
[mood \|aggravated]So I was on IRC chatting n my usual channel which has practically turned into #Gothic-Parent since everyone there has been having kids in the past 2 years lol. Anyway this girl asks me about her five month old daughters weight and if I think she's not gaining enough for her age or whatever. Not a big deal of course I'm sure we've all wondered that at some point and I gave her the usual "if she's eating fine and making lots of wet and poopy diapers and seems content she's fine and all kids are different" spiel. So then she goes on to tell me that her daughter is on soy formula and I ask if she's ellergic to the cows milk based formula to which she replies "No my pediatrician just starts every baby off on soy" and I'm like "oh, well that's not very good, you shouldn't really feed a baby soy unless they -can't- take anything else. and while I was typing that she goes on to say that she is giving her daughter solid food too (keep in mind her daughter is less then 6 months old) and I ask if her pediatrician recommended her to do that too and she said yes. At this point I'm thinking "Oh great another case of innocent mom with fucking idiot pediatrician" which pisses me off SOOO much, How dare so many pediatricians be such ignorant twatslaps. Anyway i tell her that her pediatrician sounds like an idiot to me and she should consider switching because babies should not eat solid food until 6 months of age and get this she says "Well I'm a registered nurse so I know what to look for"well jebus christ if you're a nurse you should fucking know a) if your baby is gaining enough or whatever and not have to ask strangers online and b) do not feed your fucking kid solid food before six months, it doesn't matter if you know what to look for, I know that if I put my babys head under water for five minutes and she starts to turn blue that she's drowning, that doesn't mean I'm going to fucking do it.IDIOTS
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[Feb. 8th, 2004|08:35 am]obnoxiousparent

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aggravated]So I was on IRC chatting n my usual channel which has practically turned into #Gothic-Parent since everyone there has been having kids in the past 2 years lol. Anyway this girl asks me about her five month old daughters weight and if I think she's not gaining enough for her age or whatever. Not a big deal of course I'm sure we've all wondered that at some point and I gave her the usual "if she's eating fine and making lots of wet and poopy diapers and seems content she's fine and all kids are different" spiel. So then she goes on to tell me that her daughter is on soy formula and I ask if she's ellergic to the cows milk based formula to which she replies "No my pediatrician just starts every baby off on soy" and I'm like "oh, well that's not very good, you shouldn't really feed a baby soy unless they -can't- take anything else. and while I was typing that she goes on to say that she is giving her daughter solid food too (keep in mind her daughter is less then 6 months old) and I ask if her pediatrician recommended her to do that too and she said yes. At this point I'm thinking "Oh great another case of innocent mom with fucking idiot pediatrician" which pisses me off SOOO much, How dare so many pediatricians be such ignorant twatslaps. Anyway i tell her that her pediatrician sounds like an idiot to me and she should consider switching because babies should not eat solid food until 6 months of age and get this she says "Well I'm a registered nurse so I know what to look for"well jebus christ if you're a nurse you should fucking know a) if your baby is gaining enough or whatever and not have to ask strangers online and b) do not feed your fucking kid solid food before six months, it doesn't matter if you know what to look for, I know that if I put my babys head under water for five minutes and she starts to turn blue that she's drowning, that doesn't mean I'm going to fucking do it.IDIOTS

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waves	[Dec. 3rd, 2004\|01:50 pm]obnoxiousparent
having added sprogs to my interest list I was surprised to see it come up with matches and found the community that way :)I already even know some of you!so... here I am :)Nice to meet y'all.
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