IDGAF, just pls don't assume I'm a guy. by World-Hero21 on DeviantArt (original) (raw)

I didn't think I would ever have to make this, but people keep carelessly assuming I'm a guy because they're either too lazy to check my profile or automatically judge me as a guy because of my icon and it's starting to drive me up the wall. :grump:

Are you that lazy to take 2 seconds to check my profile and see what I identify as? :unimpressed: Or just use gender-neutral pronouns? (they/them)

Personally, I don't give a fuck about my sex/gender. I identify as female because I actually feel fine with my body. I wish I didn't have to have a uterus because I don't plan on using it and oh my god, how I would love to be free from monthly periods (mine are annoying af), but other than that, I don't mind being female. I'm also not that invested in my gender either.

I don't care about gender roles (I played with both Barbies, Legos, and video-games as a kid...Still into the latter)
I prefer jeans and t-shirts over dresses or skirts (except for formal occasions and/or it's super-fucking-hot out and I don't have any clean shorts/capris to wear)
I don't like a lot of pink or flower-print stuff. (A subtle, soft pink is fine occasionally, or a nice subtle flower-print blouse...But I hate the bright flowery dresses my mom only bought for me years ago, only because she liked them, despite my disagreements. I prefer vibrant colors.)
I hate wearing make-up (unless I actually feel like making a good impression...But it's fucking itchy),
I hate "chick-flicks" and rom-coms...Give me an action/adventure/fantasy/sci-fi/comedy movie/show any day. (Maybe only Titanic, My Big Fat Greek Wedding, The Parent Trap, and Coyote Ugly...But that's about it. The rest of those genres are either boring, not relatable, or not really funny to me. Mostly all of the above.)

Apparently, this makes me graygender, genderfluid, nonbinary...I don't fucking know anymore. There's too many fucking labels these days, they're all starting to blend together. All I know is that I'm cis, ace, and female, but I'm not very feminine and I don't give a fuck about femininity or masculinity or neither or whatever. If that makes me graygender/genderfluid/nonbinary, whatever. Will I start using one of those too? I dunno. I'm already a wtfromantic demisexual, I feel like I'll start confusing myself even more than I already am if I add any more labels. And some people still don't even take "asexual" seriously, so I don't really want to add any more. :unimpressed:

...I'm just getting annoyed of people who don't know me very well on here assuming I'm a guy for whatever lazy reason. :smoking:

It's really not that hard to be mindful to switch to they/them, you know. If you're too lazy and/or you dgaf about the other person's gender, those pronouns are much easier, they work in both singular and plural forms, and they're still respectful. And if people still give you shit for not using their preferred pronouns anyway, then fuck them. They're not worth your time talking to.