Dear Abby - Life Advice (original) (raw)

November 17, 2024

Offer To Repay Favor Has More Strings Than a Marionette

DEAR ABBY: I helped a friend by giving her rides to and from work for two weeks while her car was being repaired. When she got her car back, she told me to let her know if she could ever repay the fav... more

November 16, 2024

Obligations as Caregivers Have Put Strain on Marriage

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been taking care of my father-in-law for four years -- getting his groceries, going to the bank, picking up prescriptions and doing different tasks. He's disabled and ... more

November 15, 2024

Dad Frustrated That Daughter Refuses To See the Truth

DEAR ABBY: My daughter, "Virginia," age 27, lives with her boyfriend, "Ray," on the East Coast and teaches kindergarten. Last month, she confided that she had caught him cheating. She saw texts on his... more

November 14, 2024

Husband Is Quick To Dismiss Wife's Opinions About Home

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have three grown children, all of whom still live at home. I had always thought that once they graduated from college and got good jobs, they should start paying rent. Beca... more

November 13, 2024

A Brief Thank-You Note Has an Outsized Impact

DEAR ABBY: Some time ago, you printed a letter from a grandmother who said she was changing her will because neither her adult children nor her grandchildren ever wrote her thank-you notes when she se... more

November 12, 2024

Relationship Born in Rehab Must Endure Long-Distance

DEAR ABBY: I got out of rehab two months ago. While I was there, I met someone. "Annie" lives in Florida, and I live in California. We both are doing great, and I believe we make each other stronger.... more

November 11, 2024

Wife Tired of Being the Only One To Make Plans

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 17 years to a good man with many great attributes. However, our relationship lacks connection. Every effort at emotional connection is initiated by me (like planning... more

November 10, 2024

Stepdaughter's Spoiled Behavior Has Worn Thin

DEAR ABBY: I'm in my early 30s; my husband is 46. We have been married three years. He has a 24-year-old daughter, "Kiki." Kiki has always been spoiled and catered to; she learned how to lie and manip... more

November 09, 2024

Family's 'Doer' Is Tired of Always Helping Stepmom

DEAR ABBY: I am a 37-year-old woman who seems to be the go-to person in my family to figure things out. Due to my stepmom not feeling comfortable enough with her English and my striving to win her app... more

November 08, 2024

Bitter Feelings for Mean Teacher Persist Decades Later

DEAR ABBY: My elementary school teacher passed away recently. I hadn't seen her in more than 20 years because of how she made me feel. I remember her as manipulative and having a negative attitude tow... more

November 07, 2024

Friend's Drunk Dials Are Too Much To Handle

DEAR ABBY: I have been friends with a couple for 30 years. Both are alcoholics. They function, work at farmers' markets, are sociable, have a house and pay their bills. Yet, at least once, maybe twice... more

November 06, 2024

Partner Wants Intimacy Only With a Third Participant

DEAR ABBY: I'm in an open relationship with my partner. We both enjoy hooking up with other people, but only if we agree on the person. It was going great; I still got my one-on-one time with my partn... more

November 05, 2024

Cash for Niece's Shower Pays for Cruise Instead

DEAR ABBY: My sister recently lost her husband, who passed away after a brief fight with cancer. Her daughter, my niece, was scheduled to be married later this year. They struggle with finances, and m... more

November 04, 2024

Relatives' Estate Planning Left Siblings Out in the Cold

DEAR ABBY: When my husband, "Sid," was a young adult, his mother died by suicide. A few years later, when his maternal grandparents died, his mother's two siblings inherited his grandparents' estate. ... more