beautystandards - Profile (original) (raw)
on 29 September 2008 (#16710026)
anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, anorexia, eating disorders, EDNOS, bulimia, bulimic, orthorexia,
I, nor this community, are trying to help anyone kill themselves. I will always believe, and always say whether I recover or not - Anorexia Nervosa is a mental disease that "reflects an imperfection in the makeup of your ability to process emotion and stimulus." Are you anorexic/bulimic/ENDOS? Do you feel alone? You're surrounded by others but no one understands? Here you can find others who understand, to share experiences. Other girls & boys to comfort you and others in time of despair. People who can give advice, hope, and motivation. ANOREXIA NERVOSA IS NOT A LIFESTYLE CHOICE. You will *never* hear me say that. Anyone who believes that it is, is wrong. Sorry. If you are indeed anorexic, you have no control over your mind, and cannot make that kind of choice over what you put into your body. You crave control, and think that by doing this you are indeed in control, but in fact, you have less control than you ever imagined. This sounds like a anti-statement, but hell, it's true. I even hate the term "ana" because it takes the edge off the seriousness of the disorder - makes it conversational. Makes it the in thing. Makes it okay.
**THIS SITE IS NEVER MEANT TO TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO BE ANOREXIC!**I don't think it's something that you can learn anyway. And even if the tips on distracting yourself can get you to skip a meal or two one day, that does not an eating disorder make.I don't want anyone here who wants to "lose weight". I do not want anyone here who thinks they are fine but could stand to lose a couple for their boyfriends. Tips are to give you fresh ideas on how to stay on track so that you don't fall into a depression and kill yourself - not to teach you how to not eat. If not...surprise! Go to Weight Watchers. This isn't a diet. This is mental sickness.
This site is for support: We pat each other on the backs for our successes [as they are successes to us] and hug each other for our failures. We support each other through the rough patches and demand that you take care of yourself when another is in danger.
So much more than anti-food-ness goes on here. We have a way of being able to bare our souls to each other because we don't need to hide the most basic part of our mental makeup. It is a starting point: we all know where each other are coming from, we don't need to explain that, and we can trust each other more than anyone else in our worlds.
It's a support group in the best sense of the phrase: You're not okay, and that's okay. You can come here and try to find a bit of comfort in knowing that you're not alone, that you won't be judged, and that no one is going to tell you to fix yourself. You'll do that on your own when you're ready. And we will support you in that decision as well.
Because that takes the most strength of all: Wanting to be normal.
RULES:
1.)* * * ALWAYS MAKE OTHER MEMBERS FEEL WELCOME * * *
2.)Must do an intro post within first week of membership.
3.)No lurking allowed. Please be considerate and at least be part of the community by commenting if you are not an avid poster.
4.)English posting only.
5.)No copying or reproducing anything posted in our communities to any other place.
6.)No teaching damaging behaviour. BUT if someone is going to do something anyway, share what you know that could keep them from doing even more damage.
7.)Thinspiration posting is allowed but please put the content behind an LJ-Cut it triggers some members. Put it behind an LJ-Cut and warn in the title.
8.)POSTING: When you see a post with no comment, please make a comment. We don't want any post going off the page without a supportive comment. You don't always have to post, but it is polite.
9.)LOCKING POSTS IS NOT REQUIRED (making them "friends only"). We suggest it only for posts that have pics of you or sensitive information. Even when locked, outsiders can and will get hold of them, but it prevents most outsiders from easily seeing the posts. PICS WITH YOUR FACE IN THEM WILL END UP ON THE INTERNET SOONER OR LATER, EVEN IF YOU LOCK THE POST.
10.)Breaking the rules will get you banned.
11.) No wannas!!!
12.) You MUST have entries or at least a friends only page, if not you may be rejected.
13.)PLEASE 18 + I can NOT stress this enough. Please put the YEAR you were born in your profile.
INTRODUCTION INFORMATION APPRECIATED:
1.Name you want us to address you by:
2.Height:
3.Current weight:
4.Highest weight:
5.Lowest weight:
6.Goal weight:
7.Gender:
8.Age:
9.Eating disorder type:
10.Self diagnosed or Doctor?:
11.Brief history of your personal ED struggle:
12.Photo [optional]:
13.Are you currently focused on losing, gaining, or maintaining?:
If you're a WANNAREXIC or PRO-ANA you will NOT be accepted.
If you are anorexic, then you do not need tips on how to not eat. You do not need to be told how to stop eating. You do not need to be motivated. You look in the mirror. Problem solved.
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