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| Thursday, October 28th, 2010 | |
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| _1:17 pm_[my_happy_places] |
So, I have this friend... ...who has mentioned to me a couple times I don't go down on her enough.8:42 PM 10/26/10 · While I'm sure there's a bit of overlap in situations like these, more for some than me I'd like to think, I don't have sex with every woman the exact same way. Yeah, there's some stuff I'm better at than others...but I like to divvy it up a bit so I don't get mundane and boring.Personally, given my tendency to go overboard in pleasuring who I'm with I think I'd be on the really fun side of boring if things ever went that way.Still it's a bit more complicated than that. I adapt to who I'm with and often don't have the same kind of sex with them. For example I used to be going hot and heavy with a virgin......by which, I should mention, most of the virgins I've known have been exceedingly slutty......and our sex was primarily oral. Never quite a 69, honestly haven't ever done that, but either she'd go first or I would but regardless who started we sitched it around back and forth a lot.There's another friend of mine, who I primarily only saw when I went to  Bondage·A·GoGo on a regular basis, and we'd get together just off the side of the playspace. Locked together, kissing deeply, hands down each other's pants, stroking and fingering each other to a very happy place.Sure, I don't orgasm easily and she never got me off but that doesn't mean I didn't enjoy it a really good time. Orgasm is all well and good but that doesn't make all the stuff that leads up to it any less pleasurable.Odd oral quirk with her, she wouldn't let me go down on her as she had women for that. This particular friend was gay but I was what you might call her one little exception to the rule. She made a few exceptions my way the longer we knew each other, but that's a story for another time.However, to get back to the friend I started this post with, adapting to her has been very fun but not without its quirks. The oral sex critique being a biggie. For the most part whenever we've gotten all naked and bouncy with each other it's been all about getting me into her and slamming away. This is not entirely a plan of my own making, she tends to steer me directly that way from the moment all the clothes are gone. Truth to tell, she's gone down on me twice in the 4ish so years we've knwon each other. First time was simply her sitting on the bed and pulling me to her when I was walking by, just pulling the head in so she could chew on it for all of about 5 seconds.By chew I don't mean hard. We're talking more of a firm but gentle nibble.It was about 3 years after this she sucked me very thoroughly in a bathroom at a friend's house and worked on me for more than a few minutes.Now I've been down on her 3 times. One of the first times was when we were trying to have sex in front of one of my best friends, he suggested it (probably joking) and we figured why not so he got an unexpected treat. However he has a temperpedic mattress and, unlike everybody else on the planet, I find them extremely uncomfortable.Sort of.They're comfortable insofar as you sink in and they kind of mold themselves around you. However, even under non·sexual conditions, I tend to move around a lot in bed and it's nearly impossible for me to do so on one of those which makes me both comfortable and very uncomfortable at the same time......and, as I learned that particular time, unable to maintain an erection.Go figure.Not to drag this on eternally: I've been down on her on three different occasions, spaced out over a great gaps of time, and she's tasty but more often than not she wants to get to some truly primal fucking. As we've had a lotta sex but not so much oral it's easily for me to account for the times that it's happened and while I'm one to keep score...I'm ahead on points.No pun intended.My favorite thing to do of all sexual activities is kissing and she and I have really, as far as my standards judge, done this once. There's been kisses aplenty of a brief nature, a simple full on closed mouth or brief passing against one each other, but she's not one to kiss during sex which I find odd but a little thing with what else is going on.The best kiss we've ever had was when we were fully dressed, outside at a bus stop on a really chilly night, when we had close to an hour to kill, and it kept us very warm. We were sucking face like it was the only thing keeping us alive!Straight on frenzied fucking is what we do most often, which I am in no way complaining about. I've experienced this with a few others over the years, a sort of 'being around each other is more than enough foreplay' sorta unspoken deal, and it's nice! The most recent one prior to the current it was I who often discussed the possibilities of doing more than just banging our brains out and she was all for it......but somehow we never quite got there.With the current when we do it, as I've said before, is incredible. While I'm not one to encourage that sorta thing, she's even better when she's drunk. It's the difference between being absolutely fucking incredible and a religious experience. There are not words to compare it other than maybe normally we have a go and we stop until she's ready to go again, whereas when she's intoxicated her sex drive is more on a part with mine and we go and go and go and go and go and...seeing a pattern here?Basically it lasts until she passes out, which I suspect is more from the alcohol in her system than the sex (I'm good but I hold no illusions) even though we go at it for hours upon hours when she's lit up......but as I've said, she's complained (not angry so much as specifically, that I don't go down on her enough).Even were I more inclined I'm not sure I'd get the opportunity short of trying to hold her down. I say trying as she's probably stronger than I am (under no illusions here) and, as stated before, when aroused she mostly wants me as deep inside of her as I can get and slamming fast and hard.This is just me sharing here.Admittedly, to be fair, a lot of the time we go at it I do go for immediate (or close to) penetration. This is both due to her being phenomenal at it and the numerous first times when we started having sex that was what she went for first. Not that I enjoy it any less but I've adapted myself to her needs.We as a people, all of us, have habits that often go contrary to what we say we want. Current Mood:  thoughtful (Comment on this) |
| Monday, September 13th, 2010 | |
| _3:17 pm_[skibbley] |
UK Polyday For those in range of UK, the next UK Polyday will be in Bristol on 20th November.See: http://imakeawesome.co.uk/polyday/A one-day event held in Bristol for everyone who knows that happy and honest relationships don't have to be monogamous, Polyday combines a day of discussions and an evening of cabaret and socialising to give you a chance to meet like-minded people, to build our community and to celebrate its diversity. (Comment on this) |
| Wednesday, August 18th, 2010 | |
| _10:46 pm_[badger2305] |
[Madison, WI] LGBT Pride and Other Events! FYI:Bi Intention Social Event**Pride Parade and dancing!**August 22nd @ NoonDowntown Madison, WIBi Intention will be in the Madison LGBT Pride Parade - and YOU are invited to participate! Meet up on the south side of Capitol Square, right across from Brocach at Noon. Parade line-up begins at the same time one block away on Martin Luther King Blvd. - we'll troop over there when we're all together. Look for the Bi Flag tricolor and the Bi Pride banner! Meet for dancing that night; location TBD. Bi Intention Support Night - TWO EVENTS!Bi Support GroupMonday, August 23rd @ 7:00pmOutReach, 600 Williamson Street, Madison WIFor discussion of issues of personal concern or interest, as they relate to bisexuality, pansexuality, omnisexuality or queer. Newcomers, people questioning their orientation, and others welcome.Bi Intention Planning MeetingMonday, August 23rd @ 6:00pm (one hour before the support group meeting)OutReach, 600 Williamson Street, Madison WIOur quarterly planning session; everyone is welcome! We'll be planning discussions and social events for September through December. Each event needs a host! We'll also be talking about a larger social event to build more visibility for the group.For more information, contact badger2305@gmail.com, or visit Bi Intention's Facebook page. (Comment on this) |
| Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010 | |
| _2:05 pm_[badger2305] |
[Madison, WI] Bi Intention August Calendar! AUGUST 2010 – Pride Month! Bi Intention Discussion Sex Toys: education/demo/discussionDate: Friday August 13thTime: 7:00pmOutReach, 600 Williamson Street, Madison WIFacilitators: Angela H.Get together for a fun-filled exploration of different sex toys and all sorts of stuff related to them. Not a play party; we'll have fun discussing and sharing our thoughts about sex toys and why we like them. Bi Intention Social Event Pride Parade and dancing!August 22nd @ NoonDowntown Madison, WILine up for Pride Parade, we'll have bi-flags and a banner for the march. Meet for dancing that night; location TBD. Bi Intention Support Night Bi Support GroupMonday, August 23rd @ 7:00pmOutReach, 600 Williamson Street, Madison WIFor discussion of issues of personal concern or interest, as they relate to bisexuality, pansexuality, omnisexuality or queer. Newcomers, people questioning their orientation, and others welcome.For more information, contact badger2305@gmail.com, or visit Bi Intention's Facebook page. (Comment on this) |
| Saturday, April 11th, 2009 | |
| _7:07 am_[raybear] |
Public Service Announcement I just wrote this in a comment, but thought other people might be curious too:The community was formed initially for people who were interested in the book The Ethical Sluts and the general topic of non-monogamy and open relationships. It was never a "sex community" in the sense of relaying adventures or sharing tips about the act itself, but more about discussing issues of jealousy, communication, navigating the marriage/monogamy focused world, etc. This is stated in the user info of the group, but I can change the profile to be more clear if people don't understand.Given that this group is fairly inactive, if there is a consensus that people here would like it to be more active, by means of including lots of explicit sex stories that don't necessarily have anything to do with nonmonogamy, I have no problem with relinquishing moderator control to someone who wants to manage that, and then there can be a public announcement about the group, so that the hundreds of people who joined the group with the other purpose in mind can have an opportunity to remove the group from their friends page.~~~~~~I'd personally rather have a safe space for discussing negotiating non-monogamy/poly stuff that is quiet, then turn this into yet another place on the internet for people to talk dirty (don't get me wrong, I LOVE dirty talk and I write about sex a lot myself, just not here). However, I'm not so passionate about this issue that I will engage in any sort of energy- and time-consuming battle about it, so if someone is itching to take over, do not be shy.ETA: Thank you for those encouraging keeping it the same as when it began. There are definitely no plans to change right now, I just figured that if I was going to establish a "rule" for the community and enforce it on posts, I would prefer to do it openly and give others an opportunity to speak up if they disagree, or to check in and see if my instincts are wrong about what the majority prefers. If it is the latter, THEN I would hand the reins over to someone else to moderate, with no drama. (9 Comments |Comment on this) |
| Monday, April 6th, 2009 | |
| _9:36 am_[raybear] |
Just for the record,  primavera123 left on her own volition. I did not ask/tell her to leave, only suggested that perhaps she cut-tag entries that are more focused on her sexual adventures. (6 Comments |Comment on this) |
| _1:50 am_[primavera123] |
Play hard, play safe Anyone who wishes may continue to read my posts on my journal, or in the "groupsex" and "swingersclub" communities. (Comment on this) |
| Friday, March 13th, 2009 | |
| _3:42 pm_[my_happy_places] |
brain goes where it wants... ...I'm just along for the ride!7:15 PM 9/1/08 · Was kinda thinking goofy advice, in the way of a sorta brain·fart distraction, for a lovelorn type. It usually works, busts her into gigglefits, and I wasn't even thinking about it when car terms hit my head. Tend to flirt with her, both of us knowing that it will never go anywhere...and I do it nutty.Was thinking car terms that could vaguely be related to sex as though she were coming in for a tune up. Subtlety is key! All I've got so far are change your oil & rotate your tires.Could you come up with some more for me? Current Mood: dorky (1 Comment |Comment on this) |
| Friday, March 6th, 2009 | |
| _1:35 pm_[my_happy_places] |
Boob Wars! 9:56 AM 3/6/09 · I'm not exactly sure when it was I first began developing boob puppets. If I really sat back and tried to think about it I could probably work it out. Although, in the grand scheme of things it doesn't really matter.Generally at some point after intimacy developes, or cozy nakedness, I surreptitiously begin an argument. Not between us, between the boobs. One picks a verbal fight with the other one, who naturally defends itself. It's brutal, they're insulting each other, there's constant less than pleasant verbage going back and forth here......and naturally the possesser of said boobage is looking down with a very disturbed look on her face.Then the plot to battle the head for dominance of the body begins as the boobs start to scheme together.The disturbed look becomes concerned.In  Laura's case this has developed along those basic lines but gradually I've begun to develop boob battles. Actually having them reaching across the divide and bopping each other violently; not painfully, don't worry. Now, you'd imagine that a woman these little mammary wrestling matches are taking place on would get on my case about it...but this rarely ever happens.More often than not the woman in question starts trying to mediate a truce between her boobs.This morning though...things took a turn.Kinda started last night, I named the right one Floyd. This got Laura actually directing back to me on the matter. Not about the battling but why "Floyd"? Said it was a totally innappropriate name for him. I got her on that as she referred to her boob as being male.She just harrumphed and said her boobs could be boys if she wanted them to be.It wasn't until this morning that she asked what the left one's name was.Caught a little off guard so I just went with the first thing that came to mind.Beluga.Yeah. Don't know what I was thinking either.So, first they were fighting. Basically, boob punches and wrestling. Trying to twist around each other and pin the other one. This was causing a bit of distress for Laura so I switched the tempo. I started making Floyd and Beluga flirt with each other and then start screwing each other's brains out. Then, after they were pried apart Floyd screamed out he might be pregnant now and Beluga was all on about how he didn't care and that it wasn't his problem......and Laura then did something absolutely beautiful. She looked accusingly down at her left boob and called him a deadbeat dad.I about lost it there.Don't worry. Floyd and Beluga made up and are again fucking all over Laura's chest. Lust won out again.On a side note, this last whole bit was going on while Laura and I were having ze sex.Hey, silly really works for us! Current Mood:  crazy (2 Comments |Comment on this) |
| Monday, February 2nd, 2009 | |
| _4:43 pm_[geek_dragon] |
Boundaries? My SO says he fell in love with this person who I thought was my friend, but actually back stabbed me pretty badly. I don't feel comfortable letting him see her, and am frankly baffled that he could want someone that screwed me over so badly. What do you do in these situations? To top it off, I had to move far away to escape the recession, there just weren't any jobs at home, unless it was a McJob, but that wouldn't pay my bills.Edit: Um, still sorting things out. I really appreciate the insight. It helps to hear feedback from the community, just to know that some people out there can get poly to work. That boundaries are ok. Stuff like that. (4 Comments |Comment on this) |
| Friday, January 30th, 2009 | |
| _4:36 pm_[my_happy_places] |
Thought of the Week Sex is remarkably, and disturbingly, like the Hokey Pokey. Current Mood:  horny (4 Comments |Comment on this) |
| Saturday, January 3rd, 2009 | |
| _12:54 pm_[my_happy_places] |
Finally! As a big believer that every journal should come with a 'disclaimer' of sorts, I've finally completed mine: Clicky!Current Mood: accomplished (1 Comment |Comment on this) |
| Monday, December 15th, 2008 | |
| _1:22 am_[my_happy_places] |
in general...  Do you prefer to make ze love, fuck, or just nakedly merge? Current Mood:  curious (2 Comments |Comment on this) |
| Friday, December 12th, 2008 | |
| _2:36 pm_[my_happy_places] |
poorly timed sprinkler system For those of you that have had sex in public places, what was the most embarrassing interruption you've ever experienced? Current Mood: horny (13 Comments |Comment on this) |
| Saturday, September 6th, 2008 | |
| _6:57 pm_[my_happy_places] |
We have a winner! http://sfbay.craigslist.org/pen/cas/830550949.htmlI posted an ad last week and ended up helping a disabled Iraq vet - w4m - 28 (atherton)--------------------------------------------------------------------------------Reply to: pers-830550949@craigslist.org [?]Date: 2008-09-06, 3:35PM PDTI posted an ad on Craigslist last week looking for what we're all looking for--some hot sex. But I got a response that made me stop in my tracks. It was from a man who said that he has a 21yo disabled son who had been badly injured in Iraq last year when he was 20. Apparently he was in an explosion that required one of his arms to be amputated. His other arm was saved but he has nerve damage in his hand. The son had reached out to his father a few weeks ago upset that he was unable to masturbate and even more upset that his highly active sex life (which his father was already well aware of) had ground to a complete halt after the accident. It had been five months since he had ejaculated apparently, so he was desperate and spoke to his father man-to-man and asked him to find a woman for him over Craigslist so he could get some desperately needed sexual release. I spoke with the father over the phone a couple of times and then with the son. He insisted on being present in my home because his son could not defend himself. I agreed, but only if the father agreed to stay outside the bedroom with the door closed. He and his son agreed. When they came over I was struck by how attractive he was even with the amputation and scarred remaining arm and hand. No wonder he had an extremely active sex life until he was 20. I made up my mind on the spot that I was going to drain his balls completely no matter how many hours and how many orgasms it took. Basically, for the next two and a half hours, I pleasured him with my mouth and hands and made the kid scream in pleasure more times than I can count. The third orgasm was his best. I thought his father was going to come rushing in because I heard the door handle open but he refrained and stayed in the hallway. It was like an avalanche of need came gushing out of the vet. (God almighty--a disabled vet at age 20...) I made him come eight times before he started shooting blanks. The last two times took a lot of work but the obvious relief he was feeling was well worth the effort. He fell asleep because he was so exhausted. I quietly opened the door and went out into the hallway, where his father was waiting sitting on the floor. He said it was embarassing in a way to be looking for sex partners for his son but that if he was old enough to serve, old enough to vote, old enough to spend time in a veterans hospital, he was certainly old enough to find a woman to make him come as much as he needed (my phrase). The father thanked me repeatedly and then we helped his son out to the car. We've all three been communicating by e-mail and phone. Not so much as another source of orgasms but as friends. He and his father are much closer than ever before and the father confessed during a conference call that he, of course, was young and super horny at one time and he could only imagine how difficult it was for his son to require another human being to have an ejaculation. No dropping his pants and whacking off when the need strikes (just think about that one a minute, guys!). No grabbing a woman's ankles while he's fucking her. No twirling his fingers in her hair while they're making out. This whole affair has really made me think about that evil war Bush and his arrogant cronies started and the effect it's having on this kid, his family, me, and thousands and thousands of others like him. Anyway, Craigslist brought me more than sex last week and I'm eternally grateful for it. Todd and Daniel, you guys are the best. I'm here when you need me, Todd! Love, M text thanks to dea_sex_machinaCurrent Mood: impressed (13 Comments |Comment on this) |
| Friday, August 22nd, 2008 | |
| _2:38 pm_[my_happy_places] |
might be onto something here 9:31 AM 8/21/08 · One of my more constant texting friends is someone I flirt with fairly constantly. I realize it's highly unlikely it will ever go anywhere beyond that but she's amused by my attempts so this just encourages me to be extra wonky. Like this most recent bit.Me: I want to have sex, you don't. I want to kiss, you're not up for that. I think I've found a loophole. From now on we'll just engage in passionate handshaking.Her: (long pause) How do you have passionate handshakes?Me: Sweaty palms, wandering fingers, rythemic gripping...I dunno. Mostly a stray thought.Her: Gah, doesn't sound good girlish at all. I'm gonna have to pass.She's got this really big "must be a good girl" thing. Which is interesting as she's equally horny as a body can be without spontaneously combusting. It's just that she's setup all these very restrictive rules, which seem a tad insane to me, to prevent her from just giving into her physical needs no matter how much she wants to. It's very odd......even she agrees they're unusual and very frustrating but she's determined to stick by them.9:51 AM 8/22/08 · It occurs to me it might be unfair to not mention what her little bizarre guideline is. She feels that she should not do anything physical (including kissing) with anyone until she's dated them for 6 months. Even if it weren't for the fact that most of my relationships have actually started with sex, I'm just lucky that way, still think I'd find this more than a little strange. Current Mood: crazy (6 Comments |Comment on this) |
| _2:31 pm_[my_happy_places] |
I've had these two for ages... ...but I've never ever used them with anyone.5:28 PM 8/20/08 · I got these two types of massage, the text files anyway, from before I found the internet (early 80's) skimming through a lot of local BBS's in my neck of the woods. I've always wanted to try them, certainly had enough opportunities, but I suppose I tend to get so lost in who I'm pleasuring that I'm more interested in exploring them and what we can do for each other that I tend to forget that I even have them.Still, doesn't mean I can't share with the group...so to speak.( LingamCollapse ) ( YoniCollapse )One fine day I'll find someone to do these with. Current Mood:  hot (1 Comment |Comment on this) |
| Sunday, August 17th, 2008 | |
| _12:36 am_[goodlittlegirl] |
Frolicon...Here we come Frolicon Alert!! Guys and gals and everyone in between…time is running out to get the super fantastic $40 preregistration rate for Frolicon. If you haven't heard of us, Frolicon (www.frolicon.com) is an adult oriented (21+) science fiction, pan-sexual convention held every year over Easter Weekend (April 9-12, 2009) in Atlanta, GA. Forty dollars gets you four days of fun, play, education and parties. We will only have this rate until September 2, 2008, so go get online (http://www.frolicon.com/registration2009.html) and get registered. After then, prereg will go up. We will be at DragonCon, in Atlanta, GA over Labor Day weekend outside the Exhibitor’s Hall hamming it up and taking registrations (cash only), but why wait? You know you’ll be broke after Dragon, so do it now! We’ve made it easier than ever for you to register with Paypal processing and non paypal credit card processing. The earlier you register, the more money you’ll have later to have fun. With over 1200 attendees in 2008, we were bulging at the seams, so we had to upgrade our space. This year we’ll be at the Sheraton Gateway Atlanta out by the airport, and we have nearly twice the programming space. So you know what that means…over 50 kink track classes, over 40 think track classes and workshops, bigger vendor area, more night time programming in bigger spaces, more gaming, more fun, more parties, more prizes, more costumes, just more EVERYTHING. Frolicon is a blending of artists, writers, intellectuals, leatherfolk, kinky boys and girls, fetishists of most any type, cosplayers, gamers, roleplayers, swingers, and party people who come together to form a singular convention going experience. We do what no other convention can do…we bring fandom, geekdom and kinkdom together under one roof mixing all of these interests into one BIG celebration. Come jump in the pool and get soaking wet! Frolicon is the most fun you can have with you clothes on…or off!!! (Comment on this) |
| Tuesday, August 5th, 2008 | |
| _1:14 pm_[my_happy_places] |
this post has a condom on it... ...or, better to say, responses will be screened.10:19 AM 8/2/08 · Heard on the burst of stuff I get with my morning news, alarm clock radio, that there's about 56,000 more cases of people infected with the HIV virus (since 2006) in the United States than was previously believed. This seemed as much a shock to the newscaster, who's repeated the announcement every 10 to 20 minutes, as it did to me. Even more of a shock, apparently, to the people that normally track these statistics who were blown away by this revelation.So, I'm xposting this fairly heavily to get the widest range of responses to the following questions:Do you use safe sex?What is your preferred method of safe sex?Do you always use safe sex or stop at some point with some people?Do you also use safe sex for more than just intercourse?Do you practice safe oral sex?Individual mods of the communities I send this to, I hope this is okay. Current Mood:  distressed (Comment on this) |
| Monday, July 28th, 2008 | |
| _7:40 am_[my_happy_places] |
pick a card, any card 9:52 PM 7/24/08 · Back during my sexual development, less the body and more the mind, I did some poking around the swinger lifestyle. Didn't get so much as involved with it, at the time anyway, but I did peruse several magainzes and read a lot of the literature. Wrote some organizations and got packets of stuff in the mail......it was kinda nice.This was back during my teens and early 20's. No matter what or who wrote me back I kept getting these two cards in every mail. One was white and one was blue and they made me grin from ear to ear.Blue Card:Front: If you're in the mood for sex, keep this card & smile. If you're not in the mood tear this card up.Back: The Plain Facts: Scientists have determined that the average time of intercourse is four minutes. The average number of strokes per minute is nine, making the average intercourse consist of 36 strokes. Since the average length is six inches, the average girl receives 216 inches, or 18 feet per intercourse. The average girl does it about 3 times a week, 50 weeks out of the year, and 150 times 18 makes 2700 feet, or just a little over one·½ mile. So girls if you're not getting your one·½ mile, why not let the man who gave this to you to read, help you catch up? Sexually yours *sign your name here*White Card:Front: The person who hands you this is a swinger. Don't panic...keep cool. Lie flat on your back and do everything the nice swinger tells you to do.Back: Would you believe 2,000,000 a day get laid on the average? That's 148,000 a minute. While the average reader reads this, about 1,000 are getting in, getting on, or getting off!I kept a lotta crap in my wallet and while I'm not putting these into the new one...I don't think I'm ready to throw them away quite yet. Not that I'll ever use them but they still make me smile. Current Mood: quixotic (Comment on this) |
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