A Womb in Waiting's Journal (original) (raw)

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31st October 2008

18th October 2007

shandriz @ 10:30am: <3 Hey there. I just joined the community, so I guess I'll put up somewhat of an introduction.

I'm 23, still in college, but engaged. Our wedding won't take place until after I graduate next fall. We've already been together for three years (okay, as of this coming Monday, but close enough) and I live with him on the weekends, because he's an hour away from my school and the commute would be ridiculous if I lived with him, particularly when my parents live within half that distance of the school. I also live with him during any breaks, including the month I usually get at the end of each semester (I don't get a break during all of summer because in order to get caught up after some severe academic apathy I -need- to take classes during the summer). So, in short, we've had plenty of 'us' time.

We've already decided to try for a baby shortly after we get married. He's 31 and he's -ready-. He has a 5-year-old god-daughter he's been interacting with since she was only a few months old (she's adopted, so he didn't get the opportunity until she was that old) and really, he's just awesome with kids in general and very settled and stable in his life.

I've been emotionally ready since about sixteen (I've always been mature for my age) intellectually, I've been ready since about eighteen. Now I'm financially ready (my fiance can easily provide for a family as soon as we get married-- he's a computer geek and makes quite a bit). We're just waiting to be situationally ready. It's like, I'm in the home stretch! Only like two more years before I'll hopefully have a baby!

It's harder, though, because my sister's now pregnant. I can't distract myself from the baby desire so much anymore when I go shopping and looking at baby stuff with her and all. It's not her fault-- she never wanted to have kids and this was a complete accident, but it doesn't help that she still lives with our parents as well and it's like a constant reminder that she's getting everything I want before I do (she's also getting married in January, more than a year before I do).

*sigh* sometimes it's hard to do the right thing, but I'm sure my patience will pay off in the end!

Current Mood: contemplative

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25th December 2006

lfadel @ 4:46am: Poll

Do you cook for yourself when you are free?

Yes, whenever I have spare time.

Yes, when I feel like cooking.

Yes, when the weather permits me to.

Never. I hate the idea of cooking.

No, but I would like to try someday.

No, I do not know how to cook.

No, but I have dreamed of myself cooking.

No, food delivery is fast, convenient and affordable.

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5th November 2006

myownwinterstar @ 5:22pm: Intro. Hello I just came accross this community and joined so I thought I should introduce myself.

I think about having kids all the time, seriously all the time. I have names picked out and everything. I even started buying baby clothes for the future earlier this year.

But I'm only 18 and there is so much more I want to do before having children, so it'll be several years yet. It feels like I have already been waiting forever.

One thing that undoubtably makes it worse is that I had a miscarriage a few years ago. Even though I was so young I desperatly wanted that baby. I just cannot get over that loss.

I am terrified that I will never have children. I just don't feel that I can live my life without becoming a mother. Though having said that I don't want "Mother" to be like my job description.

I get so fed up of feeling like this and not being able to do anything about it. It just feels like these feelings will never fade. Do you have any suggestions on how to deal with wanting a baby so much?

One thing I had thought I might do is start making baby clothes, because that will keep me occupied for longer than just buying the clothes. Also, making them would be cheaper. But, I'm very much a beginner when it comes to knitting and sewing. Can any of you recommend any websites that are good for getting started? I have a friend who I know will be willing to teach me to knit but I think it would be easier to do it online. Also, do you know of any patterns for baby clothes?

I'd quite like to meet other's in similar situations, so feel free to add me!

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23rd October 2006

shypoet @ 4:47pm: hey,
I am new here. I thought I'd join as I am having "baby fever" and my husband is sick of hearing about it.

All of our friends at church are pregnant, and my 2 sister-in-laws either have babies or are expecting one. I feel so left out. Still, I know that I need to be patient.

Before, my husband didn't like when I talked about having kids. We are a young couple... I'm 23 he's 22, and I know he's just scared about that thought right now.

I am on the pill, and it's been great to me (at least the new pill has...I've switched 3 times) but I really want to be off the pill.

However, the other night, Josh said to me, "you know, I kinda wish we would start trying now, so that way, our baby can be around our friends' babies' age."

That is an improvement, as I have been praying for his attitude to go from "crap! she's pregnant" to actually warming up to the idea of being a daddy.

ugh, anyway...just some rants

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19th October 2006

rhondaaerosmith @ 3:45am: Newbie My name is Rhonda and I'm 22. My boyfriend is Josh and he's 23, we've been together for a little over a year. In Aug. we found out that I was pregnant, I wasn't able to get in for an ultrasound until the end of Sept. but before that day even came I miscarried. I was 12 weeks, we never did find out the sex or if I was having one or more. I was already starting to show. I want a baby now and even though we are trying it just doesn't seem soon enough.

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12th September 2006

toxic_flurrie @ 3:27pm: Baby Rabies This absolutely SUCKS... i'm all about baby now... GAH!!!
I spent the long weekend with my "niece" Danica (and of course her mommy and daddy and "Auntie" Dawn) and omfg she's soooo cute, she's such a good baby, she sleeps right thru the night, she only gets crabby when mommy doesn't give her food right away, and omg she's only like 2 months old!!!!

And then today at work i stopped by to say hi, b/c i am off shift today, and saw a clients baby ... and omg she's as cute as Danica!!! AUGH!!! i even said to her mommy "my god my baby rabies are off the scale right now!!!!"

Joey and i are half assed trying, but yah know it's like F*CK MAN!!!!! i want a baaay-bee NOOOOOOW!!!! lol (sorry inner teenager type there!)
but here... so you can see how cute my niece is:

X-posted to clucky

Current Mood: frustrated

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10th August 2006

baby_tales @ 9:42am: Baby Tales I too would love to have a baby right now. Every time that I see a baby in public my heart gets all mushy and I have to resist the urge to to go over and ask to hold them...but my boyfriend and I are waiting to have sex until we're married, nonetheless have a baby, so I have a few years to go.

At least I work at a daycare, where I get to hold infants all day. Instead of making me glad that I don't have the deal with my own at home, I often wish that I could bring work home with me and have a baby full time. I try to be content as I am though, heh.

I wanted to invite you to my journal. I will be writing out commentaries about my days as a daycare teacher (all true stories with names changed to protect my children and parents, as well as to protect myself). Please feel free to add this journal to your friends list.

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27th June 2006

wickedsymphony @ 3:49am: BirthControl Hey, I'm curious. I have read lots of posts about people on bc coming off and TTC. So my question is this. Were you on Bc cause you were trying to prevent, or was it prescribed by your dr to help regulate your af?
I ask this cause i know in the past i was prescribed it to regulate. But never took it for long periods due to i always got the side effects from them.

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31st May 2006

wickedsymphony @ 2:09am: Newbie Hi!
I'm new here and thought I'd give a little info on myself, as a way of introducing myself.
I'm 28 years old and been with the same man for 10 years. We married on Valentines day of this year, but that was court wedding only. We're currently planning a church wedding but after talking alot we decided that we'd really want a kid.
I've been trying ,but not REALLY TRYING. The dr laughed at this.
Well a quick summary would be in Jan of 2005 i was given Provera to induce my cycle. I was good then in June of 2005 we decided to go for trying and no longer use contraceptives. Afterwards my cycle went awol, and pregnancy tests proved negative. I went to the dr's in September of 2005 and was scheduled for an ultrasound in November of 2005. My fears were high when i read what they were looking for with the ultrasound. However a phone call told me all was alright. When i asked what about my cycle, i was told to come in for provera again! Luckily fate stepped in and my cycle kicked back in the day i was to get the pills. I had it in november, and way late december into January.I was excited, i was thinking this was a way of saying we can try. However it vanished for Feb and March and resurfaced again late april early may.
Call me crazy but I went to 2 psychics to find out if i can have kids. Both said yes, but before i asked it they told me they saw it. My husbands mother even went to one and she told her i was going to be pregnant this year.
My sister keeps buying me princess stuff, for me , but stuff I store away hoping to use on a lil girl if i have one. And i even purchased some lil outfits which my husband agrees is good as a little hope chest for either sex, boy or girl.
When i went to a real doctor for a check up, nothing bad was said, only that i need blood work and now i'm awaiting that and to be on my husbands coverage so it's not so high.

Is it normal to still be saddened by this? To be worried?
I love how my man is all supportive of me ,telling me to get little clothes as a hope chest, but as i do it , i feel weird thinking, if i can't this stuff will depress me.

My ultrasound showed that i had fluid that was likely to be a burst cyst. And tho i see this as a big deal when i went to a real doctor and told her she too just ignored it like it wasn't as serious as i think.

Sorry for the long intro and all, but That's me. My name's Kerry, I'm 28 hoping to have a baby before i turn 30 which is in a year and a half about. And hope to have many more afterwards! Well not many but some more ,lol.

Current Mood: nervous

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24th May 2006

wtf_bbq @ 10:46pm: Hello everyone!
Currently the only baby i have is in my icon... her name is Willow and she's very naughty, but very loving. She's 10 years old but acts like a 3 year old cat. She adores me and lets me do anything to her really... I can hang her upside down in the shower and it's alright because Mommy is there and that means everything will be alright.
Why am I talking about my cat?
Because every since she was born (on my bed no less) and I was responsable for her, I have wanted a baby. Desperately. I think the main reason why i didn't have one in high school was all the boys there were assholes and I didn't want them to be the father of my baby. But now I am dating a wonderful, wonderful man for 4 years, and it makes it difficult because I still can't have a baby due to finance.

So in the meantime I am building a babybox. Start collecting baby goodness so that when I do have baby I will be ready.

Current Mood: hopeful

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14th April 2006

swell @ 11:27pm: *sigh*

I am wibbling at all the baby clothes at work... I am the only one there who is not a mother, and even though I'm only 20, even the girls who are younger than me have babies already (welcome to the South...)

I don't want a baby for the clothes... or the attention... or the cuteness... I just want to be older already and be married to my boyfriend, and be in the position to have my child...and being around all these unmarried moms doesn't help, when they are enjoying the benefits and joys of having children. Yet at the same time I know I want to give my baby the best life I can... and I can't do that for several years, at least three. More like five.

So I guess I'll keep looking spitefully at my patch and building my children's library...

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14th February 2006

chickadee2525 @ 9:30pm: New Member Hi everyone. My name is Diedre. I am a 24 year old wife to a wonderful, amazing man named Brian. I am in that situation where all of my friends are having children and Im trying to be responsible for all of those reasons that I know in my head are correct. (try telling that to the heart, eh?) Brian and I have been married for almost 2 years and have been together over 4 years. I am looking foward to having children...but for now I am reaping the joys of watching 3 couples/friends of ours bring new life into this world.

Howdy.

Current Mood: calm

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3rd January 2006

tariana @ 4:07pm: My husband and I have been married almost a year (and, yes, I know that isn't a long time). And I *really* wish we were in a position to be ready for children, because I want them desparately. But we're not and won't be for a long while -- probably almost 3 years. First of all, my husband just wants to be married for a while longer before we start trying. And he also needs to get his LPN license before he'll be making enough money for us to be able to afford kids. And he can't get in to a program, at the earliest, until August 2007, and it's a year-long program, which means we can't start trying at the earliest until August of 2008. And we're going to have a hard enough time managing on my salary for the year he's at school, just by ourselves, let alone with a baby. I also have PCOS, which comes with its own fertility problems, of course. And I'm also getting older all the time (I know we all are, but I'm 27 and don't feel I have the luxury of time that women who are younger may have). Especially considering the PCOS. We've also discussed adoption extensively, but it's also very expensive. I accept the fact the there's simply nothing we can do about trying to get pregnant or adopt right now, because we just wouldn't be able to afford a baby if I was lucky and blessed enough to get pregnant anyway, or somehow find the money to adopt one. I accept that it's just the way things have to be. I don't have any problem understanding that part of things. I'm just having trouble reconciling the fact that where I want to be and where we are are so far apart. And I just wonder what I'm going to do with myself for the next 3 years. My husband only gets mad every time I bring it up -- he says I'm hounding him about it. So I really can't (or shouldn't, at least) talk to him any more about it. And it seems like everyone else I know is trying anyway, whether they seem to be able to afford it or not. And they don't understand -- they all say that we could afford it somehow or something. Um, no we couldn't -- we can barely pay our bills as is right now, with no baby.

I'm sorry if this sounds horribly whiny. It probably does, and I know that. But I guess I'm hoping to find someone who at least understands -- someone who's not able to try for some reason, or someone with suggestions to help me deal with the wait. I'd welcome suggestions of websites, books, or anything that might help me.

Thanks.

Current Mood: complacent

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30th December 2005

tariana @ 7:43pm: Question about baby expenses. How much does or did your baby really cost a month? What do you pay for diapers, formula, daycare, etc. etc.? I will continue working mostly because my job has excellent benefits that I can't afford to give up.

I'm trying to figure out a plan to be able to afford to at least start trying to get pregnant. I was figuring maybe if I figured out kind of an "average" cost of what babies cost a month we could start trying to live while putting that much back (or something close to it) in a savings account each month. Then by the time I finally did get pregnant we'd have quite a nice nest egg set aside, besides being able to actually live and afford the baby on the money we actually make each month.

So, if you wouldn't mind giving me an idea of what it costs, I'd appreciate it. I'm talking an actual dollar amount, if possible.

I really do appreciate this.

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2nd June 2005

jaanka @ 12:15am: Finally after 7 years DH and I are going to attempt to start our family this September.
We were diagnosed infertile 6 years ago - my hubby has no sperm count, and I have PCOS.

However, we were told by our GP that there is a fertility clinic in the women's hosptial here in town that is totally funded by the government, the waiting list is supposedly really long about 12 months. We asked for a referral and settled in for a long wait. Last week we got a letter saying that our first appointment is in September. Only 3 short months!!

I am bouncing off the walls.
This is the first time in our marriage that there is a glimmer of hope that we may actually have a baby.

Current Mood: excited

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3rd May 2005

peabeajay @ 10:44am: January 2006 january2006 is a brand new community for mommies and daddies expecting babies in, you guessed it, January 2006! If you're expecting a baby in January, or know someone who is, please check us out!

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2nd April 2005

hevavahkema @ 9:39pm: Intro and Am I horrible? Hi everyone-
I am 29 yrs. old and am wanting to have a child. I am married to a WONDERFUL man who does want to have a family, but is not quite ready ever and keeps putting it off until some indefinite day in the future. Two years ago it was right about now when we would try and now he's thinking when we are 32, 33.
Here is my dilemma---my grandmother is very ill and her health is failing. I love her dearly and I want so much for her to hold her great-grandchild before she has to go. I am just a few credits shy of my master's in education and am teaching full-time. My husband has steady work (albeit with no benefits). We're moving into a bigger place in June (which just so happens to be right above my mom---perfect grandmother)....things seem to be in place. Except and I say EXCEPT my husband and his readiness. I wonder if he is ever going to be ready and I honestly think the answer is not at least for 4 more years and I don't want to wait that long. I am thinking about going off my birth conrol and not telling him, but this makes me feel very guilty. I know once I would be pregnant, he would be thrilled, but I would feel horribly guilty about this. I am not sure what to do. I don't want to wait any longer, and I don't want to decieve my husband. I am in such a dilemma....hmmm....anyone have any ideas on how to get out of it?
Thanks!

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29th March 2005

moosical @ 8:11pm: update I joined here quite some time ago.. Can't remember when I last posted.. We've been trying since November 2003, but I know I joined earlier than that as I wanted to try much earlier than that.

I'm pleased to say we are finally pregnant (8 weeks today)... We've got our fingers and toes crossed until 26th April 2005 (12 week scan) so that we can tell people.

Close friends and family now know.

Funnily enough though the month we conceive was the month we didn't try (if that makes sense). I guess it was because we were more relaxed.. we also made love earlier in the month.

Hope all the other waitingwombs out there find the best time for them to become parents.

Moo
=x=

Current Mood: happy

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28th March 2005

georgiancpeach @ 10:20am: New Here Hello, I'm new to this community. I'm 21 years old, finishing college, and I'm engaged. I would love to have a baby but now is definitely not the right time for me and my fiance. He says it's up to me and whenever I decide to go off BC, he'll be ready. I think we'll probably wait a few years before we start trying.

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26th March 2005

emmieslost @ 11:28am: Hello! hello. i'm new here... my name is emily and i'll be 25 this summer... a lot has happened in my life over the last two+ years which has made me think a lot about having a child.
i've had two laparoscopy surgeries now to treat endometriosis and ovarian cysts, i had one ovary removed last september. i seem to be doing fairly well on my current birth control. i would like to start ttc after i finish college, which is in about a year. my SO and i have been together for three years (as of tues. woohoo!) and he already has a six year old daughter. she is a sweetheart! i'm glad we get a long as well as we do. i can't help but get jealous of him sometimes though, since he has already experienced so much in parenthood and i fear that i will never get to. i know thats wrong, but try telling me that two days before my period and be prepared to hear me cry for the next two hours! :)
anyway...i just wanted to introduce myself. :::waves::: hello! :)

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7th January 2005

ladydiana @ 6:47pm: Illegal to have a miscarriage at any stage in Virginia??? I've posted here before but not often. Since I last posted, I've gotten married, turned 31, and if, come July 1st, I still have a job, will probably have my IUD removed and begin TTC.

However, I know that some of you have been TTC for some time, that you'd had varying successes at it...sometimes made it past the conception part, only to have a heartbreaking miscarriage.

How would you have liked to have had a police officer come and interrogate you, demanding answers to some very personal questions, and forcing you to *provide the products of the miscarriage* to him, or throw you in jail AND fine you if you did not?

That's *exactly* what will happen in Virginia if this passes, and I think the faster, and the louder, we get the word out, the better.

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13th December 2004

abbythecat @ 1:34pm: Question Ok...I have a question. i am dure to start my period on the 18th and after that we try for baby...well, to throw a kink in everything I wake up this morning spotting! I always have a very regular period and have been off the pill for a year this month...what is going on. Do i start counting form today...??? this is so weird...I was not prepared to start 5 days early...

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