What is Happiness? Understanding the Happiness Paradox (original) (raw)

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What is happiness?Before becoming a psychologist, I studied philosophy. At that time, I was fascinated by two equally vital yet frustratingly tricky questions: What is our purpose, and what is happiness?

Over the years, as part of my practical application of psychology, my focus has repeatedly been drawn to understanding and answering the latter. Despite chasing happiness personally and professionally, it seems as difficult to hold on to as running water.

Understanding happiness is equally essential to our clients, colleagues, family, and friends. It shapes the values they adopt, meaning they assign to what they do, and how they live their lives.

This article explores that question. What is happiness? How does it impact us, and how can we create an environment to help us foster more of it?

Before you continue, we thought you might like to download our five positive psychology tools for free. These detailed, science-based exercises will help you or your clients identify sources of authentic happiness and strategies to boost wellbeing.

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What Is Happiness in Life?

The landmark Harvard Study of Adult Development that began over 80 years ago (and has since included multiple generations) confirms the importance of happiness to our ongoing psychological and physiological wellness (Waldinger & Schulz, 2023).

Robert Waldinger, the latest custodian of the research, confirms that happiness — along with its most significant contributing factor, good relationships — shapes our health, wellbeing, experiences in the workplace, and ability to recover from low points in our lives (Waldinger & Schulz, 2023).

But what is happiness?

A definition of happiness

Waldinger and Schulz (2023) argue that we must consider both the immediate and the long term when attempting to understand happiness.

Hedonic happiness is a moment-to-moment, temporary, and transient experience of joy. It concerns having a good time now and is firmly rooted in the present. On the other hand, eudaimonic happiness involves a “deep wellbeing in which a person feels that their life has meaning and purpose” (Waldinger & Schulz, 2023, p. 18).

Researcher and well-known author Brené Brown offers several valuable definitions that help us explore and answer the question “What is happiness?” Her research distinguishes the state of happiness from joy and contentment, describing the former as “feeling pleasure often related to the immediate environment or current circumstances” (Brown, 2021, p. 207).

What is happiness? - The Atlantic

The following video, “What Is Happiness?” further highlights the many ways of understanding this familiar yet complex way of feeling.

A definition of joy

Brown (2021, p. 205) defines joy as having a higher intensity than happiness: “an intense feeling of deep spiritual connection, pleasure, and appreciation.”

A definition of contentment

On the other hand, contentment contrasts our general degree of satisfaction with a constant desire for more.

Brown (2021, p. 205) defines contentment as the “feeling of completeness, appreciation, and ‘enoughness’ that we experience when our needs are satisfied.”

A definition of subjective wellbeing

Subjective wellbeing (SWB) is a term frequently used in psychological research, referring to how people appraise and evaluate their own lives.

Rather than a single concept, SWB encompasses reflective cognitive judgments regarding life satisfaction and positive and pleasant emotions. Studies recognize SWB as positively associated with better health, longevity, creativity, and work performance (Diener et al., 2018).

The following image pictures several factors influencing happiness, specifically genetics, circumstances, and thoughts. It recognizes the importance of our mindset, attitudes, and feelings to shape our positive connection with ourselves, our environment, and others.

Happiness model

In the following video, Arthur Brooks explores “The Art and Science of Happiness” and the steps to achieve more of it.

The art and science of happiness - Arthur Brooks

In this next, powerful talk by Katarina Blom, we hear more about how we can gain control of this vital feeling in “You Don’t Find Happiness, You Create It.”

You don't find happiness, you create it - Katarina Blom

The Happiness Paradox

Most, if not all, of your clients will be clear regarding their desire for happiness. It’s a basic psychological need and something most of us strive for.

Yet, there is an uncomfortable paradox.

Research suggests that endlessly pursuing happiness can cause frustration and dissatisfaction. It can mean we spend more time focusing on what we are trying to avoid (or don’t have) rather than on positive emotions such as joy and gratitude that boost our happiness (Ford et al., 2015).

As the following diagram suggests, searching for unrealistic happiness and continuously monitoring our progress can result in negative outcomes.

Pursuit of happiness

Happiness research suggests that we should also consider critical contextual factors.

A 2015 study concluded that “culturally bound meanings shape whether individuals’ pursuit of happiness is likely to result in more or — paradoxically — less actual happiness and wellbeing” (Ford et al., 2015, p. 8).

It means there is no one-size-fits-all approach to forming or solving the “what is happiness” equation.

The Neuroscience of Happiness

When reflecting on the question “What is happiness?” we typically account for our emotional states, actions, and who we are with. Yet, we also need to consider our brain’s hardware.

Cognitive psychologists recognize the importance of the prefrontal cortex for regulating emotions, the amygdala for managing stress and other emotional responses, and the hippocampus for storing positive memories (Eysenck & Keane, 2015).

Neurotransmitters, such as dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphins, play a key role in pleasure, reward, motivation, and feelings of wellbeing and happiness (Eysenck & Keane, 2015).

The Neurochemistry of happiness

8 Signs & Types of Subjective Wellbeing

Research into SWB continues to shed light on what happiness is and its key components (Diener et al., 2018; Waldinger & Schulz, 2023).

The following psychological factors point to what defines and categorizes SWB (Diener et al., 2018; Waldinger & Schulz, 2023; Seligman, 2011; Ryan & Deci, 2018):

  1. Life satisfaction
    Positive self-evaluation considers the overall quality of individuals’ lives and how it aligns with their expectations and goals.
  2. Positive emotions
    A greater occurrence of positive emotions, such as joy, hope, awe, and gratitude, reflect a positive affective state.
  3. Lower levels of negative emotions
    Emotions such as anxiety, fear, stress, and anger don’t need to be absent but less frequent.
  4. Fulfillment of basic and psychological needs
    Individuals have their basic needs, such as safety, shelter, and food, met along with psychological ones, including competence, autonomy, and relatedness.
  5. Supportive social relationships
    Strong and lasting connections with friends, colleagues, partners, and family offer emotional support and a sense of belonging.
  6. Meaning and purpose
    Feeling close to and working toward personal values and goals creates a sense of fulfillment and purpose.
  7. Resilience
    Returning to or creating a new path following upheavals and challenging events is vital to psychological and physical wellness.
  8. Engagement and flow
    A deep involvement in tasks and activities contributes to wellbeing and provides meaningful rewards.

Why Is Being Happy So Important?

The importance of happinessAs we begin to understand what happiness is, we next turn our attention to why it is so important.

Happiness matters because it is closely linked to psychological and physical wellbeing.

Feeling connected to others, which is a strong predictor of happiness, reduces the risk of dying at any age and improves the chances of living healthily (Waldinger & Schulz, 2023).

A 2018 study recognized that because happiness positively impacts health outcomes, it reduces the health care burden and enhances health care performance (See & Yen, 2018).

Happiness Throughout the Lifespan

Happiness is not static. Researchers recognize that it rises and falls throughout our lifespan (Galambos et al., 2020).

U-shaped happiness

Psychologists suggest that happiness levels are highest in our 20s, dip to their lowest point in midlife, and rise again in old age. This is often referred to as the U-shape of happiness and is confirmed by many cross-sectional studies (Galambos et al., 2020).

However, while popularized in the media and by economists in support of the term “midlife crisis,” it may not be that simple.

Longitudinal research studies attempting to answer the question “What is happiness?” have followed individuals throughout their lives (Galambos et al., 2020). Their findings suggest that happiness and the factors involved are highly complex and vary considerably between individuals. How we evaluate our life satisfaction and general wellbeing seems more important than our age.

Positive aging

The Harvard happiness study recognizes the importance of good relationships to happiness as we age. Its findings suggest that to achieve positive aging, we must prioritize our close friendships, family, and romantic relationships (Waldinger & Schulz, 2023).

Human connections reduce feelings of loneliness, increasing the likelihood of physical and psychological wellness and happier lives.

Multiple studies also recognize a general shift in our outlook as we age, which benefits our perception of happiness. Older adults seem to process and remember more positive events rather than negative information (Galambos et al., 2020).

Defining Happiness Across Cultures

Happiness in different culturesCulture is often invisible to those within it. Yet our nation and family values, traditions, and practices shape our values, goals, and how we answer the question “What is happiness?” (Waldinger & Schulz, 2023).

In individualistic Western cultures, we may strive for wealth and all that it brings. Meanwhile, those in more collectivistic cultures could prioritize family connections and working toward shared goals (Exton et al., 2015).

However, we should be wary of making culturally instilled value-based judgments. For example, while happiness can be linked to wealth, once a household has sufficient income to meet its needs, there is no clear relationship between money and joy, laughter, and fun (Waldinger & Schulz, 2023).

A 2015 study explored the impact of culture on wellbeing in over 150 countries and territories. Its findings suggest cultural values influence how people appraise, experience, and report happiness. Some of these can be explained by their religion and beliefs, social norms around emotional expression, cultural coping mechanisms, and expectations and aspirations (Exton et al., 2015).

Improving subjective wellbeing is a core component of positive psychology, and there are a multitude of tools available to enhance a client’s approach to happiness.

Mindfulness

Research recognizes the potential of mindfulness training to improve happiness and subjective wellbeing. Even brief interventions of three short sessions can have positive and lasting effects (Howells et al., 2014; Zarifsanaiey et al., 2020).

Work with your client to try out the following exercises:

Building relationships

Strong connections support enduring happiness. The following exercises help clients identify, foster, and focus on positive relationships (Waldinger & Schulz, 2023):

Positive emotions

Joy, awe, love, kindness, and gratitude are closely linked to subjective wellbeing (Seligman, 2011).

Try out the following exercises with clients to help them focus on positive feelings:

Happiness awareness

The following picture is a helpful way to become more aware of what happiness is.

Encourage clients to focus on each question and understand what the answers tell them about how they live.

The three dimensions of happiness

Happiness can be defined as an enduring state of mind consisting not only of feelings of joy, contentment, and other positive emotions, but also of a sense that one’s life is meaningful and valued (Lyubomirsky, 2001).

Happiness energizes us and is a highly sought after state of being. But, what components make up happiness?

Martin Seligman (2002) argued that happiness has three dimensions that can be cultivated:

Although each dimension is important, the happiest people tend to be those who pursue the full life— they infuse their life with pleasure, engagement, and meaning (Seligman et al., 2005).

Building on Seligman’s three dimensions of happiness, Sirgy and Wu (2009) added the balanced life dimension.

According to these authors, balance in life is another key factor contributing to happiness because the amount of satisfaction derived from a single life domain is limited. One needs to be involved in multiple domains to satisfy the broad spectrum of human needs. As a result, cultivating a sense of balance is crucial for juggling these life domains.

Helpful Resources From PositivePsychology.com

We have many resources available for therapists to support individuals and groups as they learn to connect to their positive emotions more readily, manage the negative ones, and reflect on the question “What is happiness?”

To start, check out the following further reading:

Our positive psychology masterclass, Wellbeing X, provides tools, training, and techniques to support wellbeing in workplaces, schools, communities, faith-based organizations, health care settings, nonprofit groups, and one-on-one client coaching.

Other free resources include:

More extensive versions of the following tools are available with a subscription to the Positive Psychology Toolkit©, but they are described briefly below:

This worksheet uses self-reflection, discussion, validation, and creativity to explore and express sources of happiness.

Ask clients to try out the following four steps:

Walk clients through the following steps:

If you’re looking for more science-based ways to help others develop strategies to boost their wellbeing, this collection contains 17 validated happiness and wellbeing exercises. Use them to help others pursue authentic happiness and work toward a life filled with purpose and meaning.

A Take-Home Message

What is happiness? It’s a big question that has engrossed philosophers and, more recently psychologists, for hundreds of years.

It’s important to understand the question and know that the answers matter, because happiness impacts individual and group wellbeing, life satisfaction, and economic and policy-making decisions (Galambos et al., 2020).

Although happiness can be tricky to define, most would agree that it can be found in the present and over time by promoting a combination of positive feelings, satisfaction, joy, purpose, and meaningful relationships.

Interestingly enough, much of the happiness research confirms the importance of forming deep connections to our short- and long-term subjective wellbeing. The relationships we prioritize protect us from life’s challenges while allowing us to share positive emotions, such as gratitude, joy, and love.

As mental health professionals, we can work with clients to help them identify and savor the positives in their lives and shape their environment to increase their opportunities for happiness.

We can support improved life satisfaction, increased positive emotions, lower levels of negative emotions, meeting psychological needs, and building and sustaining a supportive social network.

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Frequently Asked Questions

The true meaning of happiness involves a state of contentment and wellbeing, characterized by feelings of joy, satisfaction, and fulfillment. It is not merely the absence of negative emotions but a positive state of mind that includes a sense of purpose and connection with oneself and others.

Happiness can be defined as a subjective experience that includes positive emotions, life satisfaction, and a sense of wellbeing. It varies from person to person and can be influenced by external circumstances, personal values, and emotional resilience.

A happy person is generally characterized by a positive outlook, resilience in facing challenges, and a sense of satisfaction with their life. They often have strong social connections, engage in meaningful activities, and maintain a balanced perspective on life’s ups and downs.

Jeremy Sutton, Ph.D., is an experienced psychologist, coach, consultant, and psychology lecturer. He works with individuals and groups to promote resilience, mental toughness, strength-based coaching, emotional intelligence, wellbeing, and flourishing. Alongside teaching psychology at the University of Liverpool, he is an amateur endurance athlete who has completed numerous ultra-marathons and is an Ironman.

Jeremy Sutton